Bridesmaid Lunch after dress shopping?

If you require it of them you should pay, but since it was their suggestion I don't think thou should feel obligated.

If it was your idea to go to lunch then I say it would be up to you to pay. But since they suggested it I wouldn't feel obligated to pay. Just mention to the server if they ask at the beginning...split the checks.

I would say does anyone want to go to lunch after. I wouldnt make it to where they have to attended because then you pay but if ita just saying does anyone want to get food because im hungry then they pay!

I did this with my BM's and none of them expected me to pay, but we all know that anytime we get together we are going to go out for a meal depending on what time of day it is, so it was just like any other time and we all paid our own meals.

I wouldn't expect the bride to pay if someone invited me to do something like this.

Lol at 'require' - anyways, don't sweat it. go out to lunch with your friends. they will pay for themselves.

I think going out to lunch is a great idea. After every bridal expo, dress fitting, etc. there was always an open invitation to go eat afterwards. We made a spot in Pasadena our go-to spot for lunch and mimosas. No body was obligated to attend anything. My BM were also free to go to the fitting on their own, but the majority did like going as a group. When it was time for lunch, everyone paid for their own and shared. It was a great opportunity for all my BMs to hang out and get to know each other better since I've met them all at different stages of my life.

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We went to lunch after. Everyone paid for themselves.

If it's optional you shouldn't pay. I took my ladies to lunch after dress shopping but it was me who offered lunch so I paid. I didn't require they go but paid anyway to show appreciation. I worked extra prior to though to cover the expense.

My BM and I went to lunch after dress shopping and everyone paid for their own food. Nobody would expect you to pay, unless you tell them you are taking them to lunch.

We did this after we went dress shopping. I just asked if people were free afterwards and if anyone wanted to go. They all paid for their own food. I don't think anyone would expect it unless you say that you're paying.

I went out to eat after every dress occasion (wedding and bridesmaid) with my friends and everyone paid for themselves. I only paid for 1 and that was when I picked my dress as a way to thank them for spending the day with me since it was an hour-2 hour drive for everyone.

ETA- and when I did pay, they were all very upset and mad that I paid instead of letting them pay for themselves.

Before we went BM dress shopping, I got all the girls coffee and breakfast. It was at Dunkin Donuts so it wasn't a grand expense, but I wanted to do something nice for them. They didn't expect it at all and were appreciative. The difference was that I had just gotten paid and had that money set aside for it.

In your case, I don't think you should be expected to pay. I agree with PP's and make it a voluntary lunch. Those who want to come can but if they want to leave, they can go too.

I don't think it's expected. I just had my MOH try on her dress Saturday, and we went to lunch right after. She didn't expect me to pay.

No you're not expected to pay for lunch lol. That'd be odd. All bridesmaids are generally "required" to get the dress and that doesn't have to mean free lunch

Wait why are some comments saying only if she "requires" it. It's lunch. How could she require it?!

Just go out to lunch. Don't stress. Pay for yourself.

Thanks so much everyone!

I went to lunch with my girls after BM dress shopping and everyone paid for themselves. Lunch wasn't "required" we just all wanted to hang out and when we normally go out and have lunch together we always pay separately so that's what we did.