Bridesmaid ....jealousy?

What are some of the things she says? Are you talking about the wedding around her a lot? She might be hurt that she didn't have the wedding she imagined (although, since she is married, she did have a wedding.) I would probably feel disappointed if I was her too. I would be a little more sensitive to that... she might feel that you are flaunting your big wedding around her, even if that's not the case.

The best way is to talk to her about this. If she continues then you're going to have to make a decision. You don't need to have this kind of negative stress.

Yeah, i would try to talk to her about what's going on in her own life, and minimize the wedding talk as well. i was a BM in one of my BFF's wedding a few years ago while going through some tough personal stuff, and it was super hard for me to watch her life coming together, even though i was so happy for her. weddings can bring up a lot of personal feelings that have nothing to do with the wedding itself. good luck!

I don't know if you are meaning to suggest kicking someone out over them dealing with some negative emotions, but this is absolutely the wrong thing to do unless you are completely done with that person and do not want any future friendship with them.

I would say maybe talk to her, but don't say "Why are you so negative about my wedding? Are you jealous?"

Ask her about her life:"Hey, I noticed you've seemed stressed lately. Is everything okay? Is there something I could do to make things easier for you?"

How are you so sure its jealousy? Have you spoken to her at all about it? Maybe she's just overextended trying to fit the dress fittings and stuff like that into life pregnant or with an infant (you did not mention if she had given birth yet so I'm not going to presume one or the other)

If you are really close with her I would sit down and ask her if she is okay. If she DID just have a baby its entirely possible she just is dealing with fatigue from a newborn/young child or that she could even be dealing with some post partum depression. I wouldn't automatically presume it has anything to do with you. However, I would be a good friend and reach out to her to find out if she' alright. Don't mention the wedding, don't assume she's jealous. Just go and ask her how she is doing.

Its perfectly okay!! Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own stresses and goings on that we forget people have lives outside their relationships to us! I'm glad you'll be able to sit down and just check in with her. It might just be the thing she needs - someone to listen to her!

We all do it from time to time, but I definitely most of us sometimes need to step back and evaluate - does this actually have anything to do with me? I mean if I go into starbucks and the barista is rude - I don't automatically assume its because of me - its just that maybe her car broke down, or she was late to work or her manager was giving her crap. So many things go on in peoples lives we don't see and we have to remember its usually got NOTHING to do with us.