Bridesmaid issue

Maybe she is gonna do it super last minute? give her an absolute deadline to when she has to give her share or else she can't really go then if she's not participating.

If she doesn’t want to pay for or participate in the bachelorette party, she’s not required to. This is why the bride is typically left out of planning these events.

Leave it alone. The bride is the guest of honor at pre-wedding festivities so it's not your job to cover expenses.

If she doesn't want to go to the bachelorette party, she doesn't have to. Maybe whatever the specific plans are just aren't her "thing" and she isn't into it. It might not necessarily mean she doesn't want to still be in the wedding party. I'd say just let it go, and have a great time with the rest of your friends.

Do the Bach without her. It is not a requirement or obligation. It is an "if you want" event. And as guest of honor, you should not be pressing anyone to go out to celebrate. These are not required parties.A Bride is not entitled to them . You get them if a sufficient number of people volunteer to plan them, and enough guests want to do it to make the party worth doing in the eyes of the hosts. Pressuring people, or getting angry, is truly bad social manners, in a class with getting upset someone is not giving you a gift, just because you want it. This has nothing to do with Covid. If she is not volunteering to go, and happily able to pay, say nothing.

I agree with everyone here. I know it's upsetting because we all want our weddings to have all the bells and whistles to them, including the prewedding parties, but they really are not required/mandatory/necessary. Many brides want them, but that doesn't mean we will all get them. All she has to do is buy the dress and show up, so really she isn't doing anything wrong here.

I had a similar situation and I realized I dont want to force someone to come when that person isn’t excited about the event. I spoke to one of my bridesmaids and asked her openly about how she felt about going to my bachelorette and why she was taking such a long time to reply. I found out it wasn’t her thing and she was dealing with other stressors in her life. I let her know she did not have to attend and she preferred to be part of the bridal shower only. She’s one of my dearest friends which is why I asked her to be a bridesmaids. I realized if a person is going through their own stuff it’s hard for them to push their own issues aside to meet me where I am at. We’re all in different situations in our lives and the people who want to be there for you during your exciting moments, will be there. Last thing you want is to force someone to partake in an event they don’t want to go and you’ll feel it and possibly experience some moments of disappointments during your bachelorette party. These are your fun moments that lead up to your wedding. Enjoy it with those who are excited & happy for you, and want to celebrate with you.

Thank you all. This makes a lot more sense. I realize that these events are not something that is required, or supposed to happen. I am also realizing in my original post I sound a little entitled, which I did not mean to sound like. The frustration is not coming from a place of entitlement, more just sad. I have been sad, because most of my bridesmaids seemed so excited in the beginning and when it's come down to the nitty gritty of needing to know what they want, things they need to reply to, it's like pulling teeth. ( Getting their dresses, shoes, etc) That I have just swallowed and moved on from as far as they go. This specific person, has been in two other weddings the past 2 years, and I saw a lot more effort from her with those weddings, than I have gotten, even before COVID. So, I have taken that personally where I shouldn't have. I will move forward thought, with these things in mind. Thank you!