Bridesmaid is due right before the wedding

I think what you've done so far is awesome. It'll be nice for her to have a quiet space during the reception.

I think you've done what you can so far Just tell her to let you know how she's doing as the months go on and if there is anything you can do to help her and her husband out. Treat her as a friend during these months and the days surrounding your wedding (when she'll have a newborn), rather than a bride, and she'll appreciate it

That's so nice of you! I think you're good.

I think what you've done is good and enough. However. I can say from experience, if I was scheduled to be in a wedding 3 weeks after my due date im not sure I would have made it. My baby came 2 weeks after my due date. And I had a c section. So that could happen to her.i would just say not to expect her to spend the whole day with you. I wouldn't have been able to do the whole shebang, spending all day together, hair, makeup, etc.

You're a great friend.

It's so nice to see a bride who is actually excited and caring that her BM is pregnant. You've done plenty for her!

Im having a wedding and i wish that my grandfather is here but he is my heart and soul and i hope he is watching over me in my day

@Hannah, I also had a C-section with both my babies and I know how hard it is. After the first one I never would have been able to be in a wedding and I might not have even felt up to even going to one. I have let her know that if for any reason she does not feel up to coming that I will in no way be mad at her. I would rather her be comfortable at home than miserable at my wedding just because she might feel bad for missing it. I would love her to be there and I will miss her terribly if she can't make it, but her health and comfort is far more important than that.

That's very thoughtful. I was supposed to have 2 BMs in my last wedding (never happened) with kids that were 8 months and 2 months. It was a DW. My dad, who was paying, didn't want kids there at all and insisted they bring someone to care for their kids at the hotel during the wedding. I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. Fortunately it never came to fruition. I'd say the effort you have made to ensure she can be as included or not as she wants to be already is fantastic.

You have found some amazing ways to accommodate her and i'm sure she'll appreciate all your kindness regarding her bundle of joy!

Oh I agree about the dress. Make sure they are comfortable. I would just reiterate the fact that you are more than ok with her backing out at the last minute if she doesn't feel up to it (if you are) because having a baby is very unpredictable. If this is her first and she just found out she's expecting, she may just not know what she's in for quite yet

That is very nice of you to do all that for her. I'm sure it'll make it a lot more comfortable!

As someone who attended a wedding as a guest 5 days after giving birth to their first child I can tell you what you are doing is very sweet and thoughtful. Sounds like you're doing everything right. Just make sure her dress is loose fitting, that they aren't close to dj speakers and that people are giving her space and not trying to touch the baby a whole lot

This post is giving me hope for humanity. You've done a fantastic job of being accommodating so far. Just be supportive and understanding of complications arise.

Honestly, thank you for being such a wonderful friend to your BM. This is so refreshing! You're doing everything you can, and I'm sure she and her husband are more than thrilled that you're giving them these accommodations!!!

I think you've done everything you can! The only other thing I can think of would be to see if there are any nursing-friendly BM dresses out there. I was back to my normal weight after I gave birth so a maternity dress wouldn't necessarily be a must, but a nursing-friendly dress that's easy to undo or pull to the side would be helpful.

I would also plan (in your mind) that she may back out and that's ok because she has the best excuse ever if she gets to the date and can't make it...it sounds like you are both trying

Just wanted to say that is such a nice thing for you to do!

I was in a wedding 2 weeks before I delivered and another BM delivered 1 week after the wedding. Sounds like you're doing everything you can to make her comfortable which is awesome!

That's awesome! My MOH is trying now and may be in the same boat. It's nice to see another reaction that is supportive instead of angry.