Bridesmaid Ignoring Messages

Have you tried contacting her about something not related to your wedding? Is it normal for her to take a while to respond to everyday messages? Be a friend first. And depending on her personal situation, maybe she needs to step down. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life.

View Quoted Comment Honestly it just depends on the day on non-related stuff. Sometimes she replies and sometimes she doesn’t. She actually did something similar to one of our best friends not too long ago when we were all planning something together.

We have a groomsman like this. He always takes forever (days to a week) to reply always. We asked him to fill out a form for bachelor/Bachelorette party and he took way too long( I lost out on the air bnb i wanted) and then he just filled it out sarcastically. I'm not convinced he's even going to have the right attire for the wedding. At this point I'm done babysitting and if he doesn't get his stuff ready I guess he won't be in the wedding.


I definitely wouldn't remove her or anything but if she doesn't get her dress then she shouldn't be in the wedding.

Have you tried a phone call? Start off checking in on her, no wedding stuff. Than maybe follow up a few days with a call. It’s a lot harder to avoid answering a question on the phone vs email or text.

Your wedding isn't until December? What kind of timeline do you have going? To be honest, I'd just stop reminding them. If they have a dress they will be in the wedding, if they don't then they won't. Either scenario is literally outside of your control. Let go of the outcome. Your event will be amazing either way.

I know it’s easier said than done, but maybe ask her if it would help make her life easier for her to step down and not be part of the wedding party. This would be for both your sakes if she is only doing this out of obligation. Like someone else mentioned, there may be things going on that you’re not aware of, and being a friend first and checking in with non-wedding stuff may give you a better understanding of her situation and help you decide what to do next. Some people view being a bridesmaid as an honor and others see it as a chore. I think it’s best to find out her take on it and work on it from there. You can’t make people care if they don’t want to.

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Asking her if she'd like to step down is probably doing to be hurtful. I'd be careful with doing that.

It so true that you can't make people care if they don't want to. Also your wedding is never going to be the priority to anyone else that it is for you.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Nobody but the 2 people getting married are going to make your wedding a priority.