Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Expert July 2020

Bridesmaid hotel rooms

Courtney, on June 4, 2020 at 11:27 AM Posted in Planning 0 14

Saved

Flag
Hide content

So our venue has lodging and so I will be staying there the night before the wedding. I have 5 bridesmaids 2 are my sisters , 2 are cousins , and 1 friend. All of my bridal party is young and unmarried, and wouldn't be traveling with significant others.

I'm unsure how to do the hotel room situation. My sisters are 18 and 11 so they will be rooming with my mom so she's paying for that. My cousins can room with their parents or other family members so they won't have to pay for a room either way , but I'd like to help my friend out in paying for her room. I'm thinking of sharing the room with her and paying for it the night before then she can pay for it the night of the wedding if she'd like. The only thing about this is , one of my cousins (who is Bridesmaid) may no longer be attending my wedding. She says she doesn't know if she can take off work and doesn't have anyone to watch her son although kids are allowed at my wedding (this is a whole other story). So I basically don't know how to move forward in plans. Do I include her still while planning for hotel rooms or not? I'd have no problem in sharing the room with my bridesmaid that's a friend but if my 1 cousin/ bridesmaid doesn't attend I don't want my other cousin/bridesmaid to feel left out while everyone sleeps at one hotel and she is staying at another with her mom. Booking an additional room at our venue is not really an option because they didn't provide us with many room options or I would've done this.
What should I do? I'm just not sure how to move forward without knowing if this one Bridesmaid is attending or not , and I don't want anyone to feel leftout. How have you all done your bridal party rooms for those that are unmarried and don't have significant others?

Flag
Hide content

14 Comments

Latest activity by Elizabeth, on June 5, 2020 at 6:38 PM

Master July 2019
Hannah · on June 4, 2020 at 11:46 AM
Flag

Hide content
We just didn't get involved with rooms outside of doing a courtesy room block. We allowed everyone to choose for themselves. Two of my 4 bridesmaids stayed at our hotel. One went home after the wedding (wedding was local), and another found a cheap AirBnB nearby. When I was a bridesmaid for an out of state wedding, I arranged sharing a room with another wedding guest on my own. I didn't really expect the bride to figure out my sleeping arrangements for me.
- Reply
Super June 2021
Elizabeth · on June 4, 2020 at 11:58 AM
Flag

Hide content
I would ask her straight up what the plan is. Your wedding is next month if your profile listing is correct, so it's kinda short notice to still not know. Then with a straight answer, you can figure out a solution.
We're having the wedding party pay for their own rooms the night of the wedding, but we're asking them to come in early, so we're booking 1 room for the BMs the night before the wedding. They can either stay there for free or they can find their own lodging, but at least we tried to help.
- Reply
Expert July 2020
Courtney · on June 4, 2020 at 12:04 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Right, it's something she JUST told me last week. It honestly just sounds like excuses as if she didn't make accomodations beforehand for months, but all she said was , "It's a slight chance I can't make it". I probably do need to ask her again that I need to know.

And so maybe I should just give them options along with how much it is , and let them decide. Did you get ready with your bridesmaids?
- Reply
Expert July 2020
Courtney · on June 4, 2020 at 12:06 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
So maybe I should just give the others outside of my sisters options and let them choose. Did you get ready with all of your Bridesmaids? I'm wondering if one room will be big enough for us all to get ready in if they decide they don't want to stay at the same hotel as me because of cost.
- Reply
Super June 2021
Elizabeth · on June 4, 2020 at 12:19 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

I would definitely ask for clarification because it's just so soon that not knowing is going to be complicated with the final planning.
I will be getting ready with them, yes!
- Reply
Expert July 2020
Courtney · on June 4, 2020 at 12:30 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Yes it frustrated me a little because it seems so last minute, but I'm not going to let it ruin my day.

But how are you doing your getting ready if they are staying somewhere else? Will you have 1 or multiple rooms to get ready in? I'm wondering if my Bridesmaids stay somewhere else will one room be big enough for 6-7 people to get ready in and do make-up
- Reply
Master July 2019
Hannah · on June 4, 2020 at 12:39 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
I think it depends on the number of people and the size of the room. We got our hair and makeup done at the salon and then got dressed in the bridal suite of the venue.
- Reply
Champion July 2019
Veronica · on June 4, 2020 at 1:09 PM
Flag

Hide content
I let our bridal party handle their accommodations.
Best Man - His fiancee couldn't take more time of work so he attended by himself. He shared a room with a mutual friend. My husband also stayed with them the night before the wedding.
Husband's brother (groomsman #1) and his wife and Husband's sister (Bridesmaid #1) and her husband - Shared an airbnb the right of the rehearsal and wedding
Groomswoman - She is single and she didn't bring a plus one. She choose to book her own hotel room by herself.
Groomsman #2 and Bridesmaid #2 (they are married to each) - Booked their own hotel room
Groomsman #3, his wife, and Baby - Booked their own hotel room
My sister (Maid of honor) and her now husband - Unfortunately, couldn't afford to stay at the hotel so they drove back home after the rehearsal which is about 1.5 hour drive. They drove back the next morning then drove back home after the reception.
My brother (Bride's man) and his wife (Bridesmaid #3) - They have pets so they didn't want to stay at the hotel so they also drove 1.5 hour back home.
Myself - My grandparents booked a hotel room with two beds so the night before the wedding I stayed with them.
- Reply
Super June 2021
Elizabeth · on June 4, 2020 at 3:54 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

We're getting married at a mansion, so I have the bridal suite booked for the day of the wedding and they'll be sleeping in another room in the mansion, but then getting ready with me in the bridal suite. For you, maybe you can look at getting connecting rooms and then you'll have the size of 2 rooms for 6-7 people?
- Reply
Expert July 2020
Courtney · on June 5, 2020 at 1:57 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Thank you. Did you get ready with anyone?
- Reply
Expert July 2020
Courtney · on June 5, 2020 at 1:59 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Ohh okay. Sounds nice! I wish my venue had a bridal suite but I don't think they do that anymore. The rooms they have available for me are spread out. It's not a hotel , it's a state park that has lodging like a hotel and a restaurant so they don't have that many rooms. The two rooms that I could have that are close to each other are two double size bed rooms across from each other , so that's what I'm thinking about doing. But maybe I can just give them options & take it from there. If we have to get dressed in 1 room hopefully it won't be too bad.
- Reply
Champion July 2019
Veronica · on June 5, 2020 at 2:23 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

Our venue had a large suite that we paid extra for. It wasn't a normal hotel suite though. It is a suite specifically used for getting ready. It is two large rooms with a bathroom and bar off attached. It was the length of one whole side of the hotel. I have included photos of the area below. According to Google my getting area is 1,008 sq feet so it was a very large area. I got ready with my mom, grandmother, bridesmaids, flower girls, and groomswoman. My husband got ready in a two bed hotel room. He got ready with his groomsmen, my dad and the bride's man. The hotel room was definitely not large enough so the photos looked very crammed together. If you have a lot of people getting ready with you, I would recommend getting ready at a house or in a large hotel suite rather than just a normal size photo sweet.
- Reply
VIP October 2020
Anna · on June 5, 2020 at 2:39 PM
Flag

Hide content
My wedding is local, only one bridesmaid is from far enough out of town that she’d need lodging, but and this is how it’s been for all the weddings I’ve been a bridesmaid in, I’m asking my girls (and my OOT MOH’s sister) to stay with me the night before the wedding and we can get ready there.

If the one doesn’t come and the other feels left out, what about having an air mattress and joining you and the friend bm? I know some people are weird about this, but I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
- Reply

Super June 2021
Elizabeth · on June 5, 2020 at 6:38 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

The two rooms across the hall from each other still sound like a great option! It's definitely close enough that it won't feel too separated. I'm sure it'll all work out!
- Reply