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Tatiana
Savvy June 2023

Bridesmaid help

Tatiana, on July 22, 2022 at 7:08 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 38

Hello fellow planners, Im having some issues with matching up bridesmaids dresses. I asked my sister (MOH) and my future SIL to be my bridesmaids. The theme is 50 shades of blue so I left it open to them on what kind of dresses just as long as they were long formal dresses in any shade of blue. Well...
Hello fellow planners,
Im having some issues with matching up bridesmaids dresses. I asked my sister (MOH) and my future SIL to be my bridesmaids. The theme is 50 shades of blue so I left it open to them on what kind of dresses just as long as they were long formal dresses in any shade of blue. Well my sister picked this dress (which I’m not sure even looks like a bridesmaids dress) and now I am having trouble trying to find a dress for my SIL that’s not going to clash with this one, but also doesn’t drown out my SIL. Please if anyone has any suggestions or ideas, I’d love your help! cfb_1538513.jpg


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  • Traci
    Devoted May 2025
    Traci ·
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    Omg you're very welcome. I will be getting my bridesmaids dresses from that site as well. Well update us with which dresses you choose. Happy shopping good luck💜
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    I think the original dress is stunning and would never upstage anyone. Bridesmaid dresses in general are designed to be plain and and not be flattering on everyone. So when you do find something that everyone finds that looks good on multiple body types and sizes, then you have a win.


    Has your sister tried this dress on before purchasing as is highly recommended or is it a website only that doesn’t have a dressing room? Every local bridal salon has bridesmaids dresses to try on before buying and available in a variety of blue shades.
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  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Hello is your MOH wearing a different style dress or do you want them to wear the same color and style. If they are not then you can find a blue it can be dark blue or a pastel blue if dresses are going to be different
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  • Scarlett
    Dedicated December 2023
    Scarlett ·
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    Imani showed you some really beautiful flowing dresses! I like that look a lot better for a beach wedding! The tight dress might be restricting on the beach. Sometimes its best not to give bridesmaids too much control because they will be upset when they cant wear the dress.
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  • Rabreena
    Devoted October 2021
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    If it's an option and possible for you to do, I would suggest maybe refunding her the amount spent on the dress she got (which you're having issues finding something else to match it and you don't feel like it looks like a bridesmaids dress) OR you can offer to pay for a replacement dress that you feel would be more of a "bridesmaid" dress to more easily coordinate with your SIL.

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  • Beth
    Savvy September 2021
    Beth ·
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    She totally should’ve called you first!! No offense to your sister but that just may be a lesson for her to learn. Hopefully she didn’t spend a lot on the dress.
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  • Tatiana
    Savvy June 2023
    Tatiana ·
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    Hi! Yeah I wanted them to wear different dresses. Thank you for the color suggestions, it was getting so stressful trying to match it exactly
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  • Tatiana
    Savvy June 2023
    Tatiana ·
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    Yes I love the suggestions she sent and so did my SIL. Just trying to get her scheduled for some fittings now. I definitely regretted not just picking the dresses out myself
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  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Hi yes you are so welcome and I'm glad that it help. And I know that it could be very stressful I hope that everything else goes well. Happy planning I'm at my count down and my girls havent booked any alterations. And the groomsmens are going tuxedos next week. And I still to get a cake but I have been busy so many other things. So now that on my top of the list
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  • Tatiana
    Savvy June 2023
    Tatiana ·
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    The dress is actually growing on me and me and my SIL found a couple satin blue dresses that she’s going to go try on that match my sisters
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  • Tatiana
    Savvy June 2023
    Tatiana ·
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    So stressful !!! Good luck with everything to! And if you need, ask for help on some of the tasks you don’t have to physically be present for. Maybe your MOH can help get the bridesmaids together to go get their alterations done, so you can get other things done . It’s ALOT to do and then still work lol
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  • Tatiana
    Savvy June 2023
    Tatiana ·
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    I know I definitely feel that way. But I have adjusted to it and have found a couple of dresses in blue satin that will match pretty closely with my sisters. So I’m going to have her try those
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  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
    Monique ·
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    Yes as soon as I gotten done reply back to some ppl I just asked her if you can do that bc my other MOH is doing the task of bridal shower and bachelorette party they will do together. Ty so much for the advices but we both was on the same page 🤣🤣
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  • Tatiana
    Savvy June 2023
    Tatiana ·
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    Oh nice !!! Lol 😂 yes we are! Good luck with everything!!
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  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Good luck to you
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  • Heather
    Savvy October 2023
    Heather ·
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    The accents/pattern on this dress appear to be navy, so it would pair well with a navy dress! This dress is busy, so sticking to a color in this dress and silhouette will pull the two together. Picking different tones will just be loud and distract from the bride in my opinion. Bridesmaid help 1
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  • Amanda
    Beginner February 2023
    Amanda ·
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    It’s hard to clash when you are considering only two people. Sounds like you are not okay with giving up control. In which case you should pick a dress for them which keeps it easy for all. Personally I think this pattern dress is gorgeous! I hope at least one if not all of my bridesmaids pick something as beautiful as this!! The pattern gives your SIL a ton of options. Giving them matching flowers will tie it all together on the day too. Try to envision all the other elements that go along with the dress and maybe that will help? That said, I may be different than other opinions but I think traditional bridesmaids dresses are boring and prevents your closest friends from feeling beautiful at an event they are looking forward to not only attending but also helping you execute. Last thought, why does your SIL need to limit her dress options because someone else picked their dress first? Doesn’t seem fair.
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  • Julija
    Devoted October 2023
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    No that’s a mother of the bride dress. Personally I would give them a few more parameters like where they can shop, what length the gown should be, and what kind of material it should be. That way it will make things a bit more uniform while still allowing them some freedom.
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