I am so torn. We are holding a small, intimate wedding ceremony with about 40 of our family members in February 2021. I don’t know what to do about bridesmaids. I have three girls in my life who are just about equal to me in closeness. My little sister (18 yo) & my two best friends (who don’t really know each other). I really don’t want to have to pick one of them as my maid of honor. I know my sister won’t really care, but I know if I choose one best friend- the other would be upset and vise versa. I kind of want to have 3 maids of honor and no bridesmaids... would that be silly?? Would it take away the significance of the title? They all mean so much to me and I’m close to each of them in a different way. I would be honored to have all 3 of them beside me on my special day. Any thoughts/opinions would be helpful!!!
My younger sister is mine & then my best friends are all bridesmaids. Even if me and my sister weren’t close, it’s a good way to not offend friends because they know your sister is family. BUT if you’d rather have all 3 of them, who cares if people think it’s unusual. At the end of the day, your opinion is the only one that matters the most!
I feel similarly about my bridesmaids because I am only having my little sister, two best friends, and sister-in-law by my side. I decided it was most appropriate to make my sister MOH. I felt it made the most sense for her to take on the duties such as planning the bachelorette party. But she is 24 which makes it easier to have her be the MOH choice. I think you can do whatever you want, planning a wedding right now is crazy!
I have a younger sister as well and I always knew I would make her my maid of honor because she is family and we are really close so it was a no brainer for me. But it was also easier than trying to pick out of my friends. It won’t take away from the specialness of being asked to be a bridesmaid though. Because it really is an honor to be chosen! People understand though no matter who you choose to pick! It’s about your day and what you want! Also keep in mind that whomever you choose as MOH is technically in charge of planing your bachelorette party too. Technically. I will not be having my sister plan this as she is not responsible with timeliness and always waits till the last minute so I’ll be asking a few of my bridesmaids to plan it. There’s really no wrong answer. Just do what makes you the most happy!