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Just Said Yes September 2020

Bridesmaid help?

Alexis, on August 27, 2019 at 5:15 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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Hi lovelies,

i got engaged back back In December 2018, getting married September 2020. I pretty much already had my bridesmaids picked out, and had told them such, but extended no official proposal. I worked with two of the girls for a children’s party company as princesses, and they were my family for three years. However, due to an unfortunate incident, I had to leave that company. In the past few months since I’ve pulled away from the company and left, I feel as though I’ve completely lost connection with these girls. I’m concerned that our friendship only lasted because we saw each other so often for our job and after work hangouts.

Im no longer sure if I want them to be in my bridal party. I thought they were my sisters, but I’ve only heard from either of them once in the last three months. They were both there to help me pick out my wedding dress, and even picked out bridesmaid dresses, though they haven’t been purchased. I guess I’m looking for advice on this issue.

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Latest activity by Sara, on August 28, 2019 at 8:35 AM

Lady · on August 27, 2019 at 5:33 PM
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Have you reached out to them at all in the last 3 months for anything other than your wedding? The friendship should not be one sided. I think there will definitely be an adjustement period even with really good true friends when you go from seeing each other almost every day to have to actually work to schedule hangouts and stuff.
I think it's rude to ask someone to be in your bridal party and then kick them out, period. But make sure you're trying to hang out and communicate with them just because, not just for your wedding. It will be fine.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on August 27, 2019 at 5:38 PM
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Telling someone that you want them in your bridal party and taking them to pick out bridesmaids dresses is enough of a "proposal." There's no such thing as an "official proposal" for bridesmaids, there's just trendy boxes and gifts that people give out. Unless these friends have actually done something hurtful, it would be extremely rude to kick them out now. If you do, I would be prepared to permanently lose the friendships.
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Savvy September 2021
Taylor · on August 27, 2019 at 5:47 PM
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I would say reach out to them, if you haven’t already! I think we can get caught up in thinking that others think about our wedding as much as we do, and I’ve found that’s just not true. Not saying this is what you’re doing! But I had one close friend who I thought I wouldn’t include because we also hadn’t talked or hung out much, but when I reached out to her she was there for anything I need and it restored my hope in our friendship. If they still aren’t responsive when you try, then I would directly ask if they are still interested in being in the wedding. Don’t beat around the bush, just have an honest and open convo about it
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Super October 2019
Sara · on August 28, 2019 at 8:35 AM
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Definitely talk to them. Even if you didn't formally ask them, having them pick out dresses is close enough that I'd consider them asked. I'd definitely recommend seeing if they still want to be bridesmaids, and give them out if they're looking for it.
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