Bridesmaid Help

We need more details. What is she complaining about? What did she say to you? Are your expectations for the wedding party excessive or inappropriate in any way?

How far are you from your wedding day? It’s recommended if you search past topics that when the wrong people are asked before 9 months before the wedding, then drama ensues and friendships are broken permanently as a result of asking them too early.


Also it’s a huge misconception that a bridesmaid is responsible for planning the wedding. That is your fiancé’s job. The only responsibility any bridesmaid has is to purchase a dress and show up on the wedding day and at the rehearsal to support you. Nothing else is she responsible for in any way.

View Quoted Comment I asked her to come dress shopping. She didn’t. My bachelorette party is for 2 days and she said “Do I really need to come to that” I told her what website to order a dress off of and she’s complaining that she doesn’t know what size to get and that “you don’t f**c*** get it that I’m taller than you”. With the wedding and outside of the wedding, she is constantly swearing and yelling at me.

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It's not out of line to be unavailable to shop for your dress or to attend a bachelorette. As PP has said the only responsibilities she has are to show up wearing a dress and support you on your wedding day, and attend rehearsal if possible. Anything else is nice but not obligatory. As far as the dress, you are supposed to consult your party for budget and style, not impose something on them without any input, so that may be part of her frustration, though she is very rude to express herself the way she does.

That said, I wouldn't tolerate the cursing and swearing. The real question is whether you want a friendship at all with this person, not whether you want her in your bridal party. But first, I'd reexamine your own entitlement and expectations.