So I have 3 BMs. I love all of them, but 1 of them in particular is acting kinda like a diva. I have tried to make plans to BM dress shop where all 3 could make it, so they could meet before the wedding and we could have a girls day. BUT 1 of these is not like the others lol. 2 of my girls are extremely flexible and for the most part any day or time will work for them. We planned a Saturday a few weeks ago and all 3 girls knew about it. The night before the appt I was talking with girl #3 and mentioned I cant wait for her to meet everyone and she said " that is this weekend, the 17th is tomorrow? I totally forgot and I am going to CA for the weekend, you should have told me to put it in my scheduling book" I was like ..... um.... not my job to make sure you have it written down in your book and keep on top of you about this(not trying to be a controlling bride). I then tried to schedule a new appt with all 3 of them 2 monthes out and #3 has one or another reasons she can not make any of the times, or she wants me to cancel appts I have for other things (not wedding related, health related) to go when she wants. Finally the other 2 girls decided they can meet #3 at the wedding and picked a day and time to go dress shopping(so easy). #3 goes to CA every other weekend to drink and hangout with old friends and that is fine. I just cant believe it is so hard to get her for 1 hour to go dress shopping. Plus I didn't realize how much she drinks and apparently she told a mutual friend, she never has one drink I was like great now do I have to worry about her being drunk and out of control at the wedding. I have seen her drunk once and that was enough, it was very uncomfortable and she was out of hand and loud. I was hoping as she is 33 and having her child there it will keep her in control, however the last time I saw her drinking, her kiddo was there and she was still acting like a party girl. When I asked her to be in my wedding she was not like this, it has changed since she is separating from her husband.
I don't know what I am going to do but I appreciate being able to vent it out here