Bridesmaid has the flu... wedding on Saturday

That sucks I think you should let her rest tomorrow and just hope and pray she feels better by Saturday. Leave it up to her though and explain no hard feelings if she is too sick. Hope she feels better soon!

Oh No! That sucks that she's so sick!! I would do the same as above, let her know you hope she feels better but you can't have everyone getting sick either...if I was her I'd probably skip tomorrow's events and hope to be there for the wedding

Agree with @Heather. I'm not a doctor, but the meds have to be in your system for a certain amount of time before you are no longer contagious.

That is if she even was given the meds. If you've had it for longer than 48 hours, they normally don't give you the antibiotic.

Tell her not to come. Seriously. The flu is so contagious. Do you have any elderly or very young guests coming? Even if you don't get the flu, she could pass it to them and it can really wreak havoc on those 2 populations.

Do not have her come to any events, including the wedding, unless she has been fever free for 2 days and seen a doctor.

If she was given meds today there's a chance she won't be contagious Saturday. Tell her to skip the rehearsal (maybe even send her some food to her house from somewhere and tell her you hope she feels better?) and have her ask her doctor whether he/she thinks she'll be contagious by your wedding time on Saturday. If the answer is no then I'd say leave it up to her. Either way, it's good you're not so caught up in your wedding vision that you're making her come! Haha!

I would tell her not to come to the rehearsal first, and see how she's doing by the wedding. Definitely have her talk to a doctor to find out how long she will be contagious for before telling her to not come.

I had a bride last march who was throwing up and carrying on during the prep time and still very weak during the ceremony she wasn't in any of the bridal party shots but after much medication she was able to rejoin the party. As her to come during the ceremony, I mean she is a VIP, and participate . If you aren't around her always near you it should be fine

As long as she doesn't have a fever for about 12-24 hours it's no longer contagious, if she isn't already, up fluid intake (try pedialyte). Typically fever with the flu shouldn't last more than 24 hours, and normally it's a low grade fever, have her take Tylenol or generic acetaminophen for fever reduction.

This BM has influenza, not the stomach flu - there is a huge difference between the two.

I work in a hospital and if we get diagnosed with the flu, we are not allowed back in the building until we have been seen by a doctor and been fever free for 2 days. Why would OP want to risk her guests' health by not following similar guidelines? Even the CDC recommends a minimum of 24 hours at home after your fever breaks.

I know most people think the flu is a minor illness and for most it is - but when you have such a big congregation of people coming together for an event like a wedding and someone with the flu attends, you're potentially creating an incubator for the virus.

Remember that influenza is a virus, not a bacterial infection. Antibiotics don't really do anything helpful, in actuality taking antibiotics with the flu can be harmful.

I would not leave it up to her. It may be harsh, but there is no way I would want myself, FH or any of our guests getting sick.

She needs to stay TF home. Children, the elderly, and pregnant women have much higher chances of contracting it since their immune systems are suppressed.

The flu can kill people in those sensitive groups.

I wasn't talking about antibiotics, I was talking about Tamiflu which reduces the length and severity. I don't know what meds other people were talking about. But again, it's fine if she doesn't come. Mismatched sides are perfectly fine.

Does she have the real flu? And by that I mean influenza? People are mentioning vomiting which is not really influenza. Everyone calls it the flu but it's not. If it's some stomach bug it's possible she will be better by this weekend. However if it is influenza (which is really going around right now, especially influenza B) she will be contagious for a week from when her symptoms started. I'm a nurse and actually just had this conversation yesterday with a physician I work with. He told me it's one week from when you start having symptoms. So if she has influenza she really shouldn't come.

@Mal-Pal - Tamiflu is great for the affected person but doesn't help the contagion factor, unfortunately.

Oh, does it not? I figured since it shortened the length it did. Well, just kidding then! Thanks @cheval!

I'd tell her i hope she feels better soon, but she should stay home.

My mom is a cancer patient and I would not want her to catch anything.

Tamiflu won't make her less contagious. The conversation we were having yesterday with the physician the person in question was on tamiflu and he still said 1 week for being contagious. Honestly she will probably still feel like shit this weekend if it is influenza

I would honestly not just be worried about the fact that guests can get sick, but she really needs rest right now.

@miranda the doc told her it was influenza B. So you're saying it's a full week until she's no longer contagious? Oh boy...