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Tonya
Beginner July 2019

Bridesmaid gifts advice

Tonya, on May 23, 2019 at 12:09 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
Hello! So, my bridesmaids are spending about $500 each to be apart of my wedding. Which is a lot. But the dress I had them get was only $80, I told them to wear shoes/jewelry of their choice, and hair and makeup can be done by them. The bachelorette party I offered to do for about $50 each, and I asked for no bridal shower. Instead, my bridesmaids made the bachelorette party about $300 each and each spent $60 on my bridal shower plus they bought me gifts. Which I’m really thankful for, but now I have bridesmaids who spent $500 on my bridal shower and I’m on a budget!!!

So here’s what I came up with, and I need to know if it’s okay or not:

I got them each a designer necklace, not to wear at the wedding, but it’s kendra Scott so super popular here in Texas, a pink travel mug with a lid and gold lettering that says “lipstick and lattes” (just something cute I thought they’d like), I can’t afford robes so I just got comfy tank tops and I’m ironing on “bride tribe” on all of them to wear the day of the wedding while we’re getting ready, a bottle of champagne and a Starbucks glass bottle of coffee, and then I’m hand making them tote bags with their initial on it to put everything in. Im
going to try to make it look really cute... But I’m not sure if this is more like a “bridesmaid proposal” type gift or does this count for their gift for being in the wedding??

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Latest activity by Kelly, on June 7, 2019 at 7:01 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I think this all sounds very sweet. Also, while I know you said they spent over $500, the majority of that was their own decision. You definitely went out of your way to keep their expenses down. You do not need to feel obligated to gift them things that you can't afford. I would also maybe top the whole package off with a sweet, heartfelt note about how much each woman means to you.
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  • Tonya
    Beginner July 2019
    Tonya ·
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    Oh yes!! I forgot that part. They will also be getting a note as well!
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  • Tonya
    Beginner July 2019
    Tonya ·
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    Also, I got them bridesmaids proposal boxes at the beginning. Which were white boxes with their names written with gold glitter letters, nice chocolate, mini wine bottle, bridesmaid hair ties, nail polish, lotion, wine glass with their initials, and a nice note in that as well... so I’m also hoping that my gift at the end isn’t too similar to the gift I gave them in the beginning..
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    It's similar but not the same, which is totally fine.
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  • Chelsea W.
    Dedicated October 2020
    Chelsea W. ·
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    I think you’re being very generous and everything sounds super cute and thoughtful.
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  • MAMW
    VIP August 2013
    MAMW ·
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    I think everything sounds really nice! The only thing I would maybe not do (and I don't mean this to sound however) is maybe not iron "Bride Tribe" on the tank tops so they could wear them again. I actually got my bridesmaids tank tops too for my wedding instead of robes or similar items, and it was just a plain blue tank and they still wear them 6 years later! But even if you end up ironing the phrase on, all of your gifts sound really nice and I'm sure your friends will love them!

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  • Jessica
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    I think that is good. I would also include a nice thank you note.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I think this sounds awesome!! I did a similar collection of gifts, so they felt like really nice "bridesmaid goodie bags"! You've also got a ton of stuff in there that isn't wedding-specific, so they'll definitely appreciate that they can use those things all the time!

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  • Robert
    Dedicated October 2021
    Robert ·
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    That sounds really really lovely! Something that you know each of them will appreciate that you've clearly put effort into is the perfect gift Smiley smile

    I've seen people complain online about getting 'bridesmaid'-specific clothing as it can't be worn again- but I think that alongside all of the other gifts it'll serve as a keepsake which is perfect.

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
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    Your gifts sound so sweet.Smiley laugh

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Your gifts sound very sweet and more than enough. I'd love to get any of those gifts! I've spent upwards of $1,000 on a bride to be in the wedding and got a $5 silk robe haha!

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    Those gifts sound very sweet. I wouldn’t worry about matching the value that they spent. It was a choice that they made, & wasn’t a requirement on your part. What you said & a handwritten note sounds awesome.
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