Bridesmaid getting married two weeks later

You get one day...let it go

Exactly - you get one day. You need to stop caring about it

How is she going to overshadow you? You get a day, she gets a day.

Half your guest list (your family) probably doesn't even know she exists. This is pushing bridezilla territory.

Two weeks isn't 2 hours, I wouldn't worry about it. As the ladies above said, we get our one day, after that it's all up for grabs!

I think it's odd that you care. You get one day.

My cousin and his FW wanted to pick the same date as our wedding. They decided on the weekend before my wedding so our family will have back to back wedding weekends.

I could care less.

Why do you care? Explain your thoughts a little more, may help to map it all out. But ultimately, you shouldn't be so focused on other weddings over shadowing yours. It's just a party, the bigger deal is being married

Who the fuck cares??

You only get 1 day. She can choose any other day she wants.

Your FH has the right approach.

You get one day.

It's not odd. People around the world are probably going to be getting married on the same day you are. Does sharing your wedding date with these strangers also bother you? What about people having their birthday on your wedding date? Being born on your wedding date? Dying on your wedding date? Getting engaged on your wedding date?

Let it go.

My brother and his fiancée are getting married a couple before me. They don't care, and FH and I don't care. We all are adults and wanted to get married. FH and I shouldn't wait to marry just because we might overshadow them, or vice versa. The wedding planning takes up a lot of my time, and their time. Buy you know what? All the guests will know is the actual wedding day, so it doesn't matter to them. They'll see my brothers wedding and then they'll see my wedding, different days, no one cares.

My best friend and bridesmaid is getting married thirteen days after me, it's not that big of a deal. At all. We're even getting married at the same venue.

I'm more concerned that when she should be coming home from college for the holiday break, she'll be putting the finishing touches on her wedding. There's something about these way too early weddings that make me sad.

As to the other issue, her reason for getting married a day before the year ends probably has more to do with taking advantage of 2017 tax benefits, not overshadowing your day. In any event, you need to realize that you don't get an afterglow period that precludes any other family or friend weddings from happening for a set period of time after your wedding. One event, that's all any of us are entitled to.

The only issue I see is if FH has family travelling to attend. Most people are not going to be able to travel much distance twice in 2 weeks. And if that's the case then I do think it's inconsiderate to schedule two weeks away.

I'm getting married 3 weeks after my MOH. Do either of us care? No.

No, it's not weird and you both get one day. My sisters got married 2 weeks apart and their weddings were so different from each other, nobody cared. Especially not my sisters. One had 12 people in Italy and 2 weeks later my other sister had 800 people at hers in Long Island. Both got their day they wanted and both showed up to the other wedding happy for each other. Embrace your day and support hers.

That's so great! Such happy times for FH's family! Don't bring it down by being upset about this. You don't get dibs on more than one day for your wedding.

I don't think the big issue is the day, I feel like your issue is her age which I get. 18 is really young to get engaged and 19 is really young to get married. You just have to remember that being that young, things change very quickly. She may decide to push it back once she sees how expensive it is or as she gets close to graduating, she may see her friends going to college and choose not to get married right out of high school

I have a cousin getting married two weeks after us. At first I was pissed cause I'll have to work traveling around that (FH family does vacations every year, his sister will have a brief window between med school and residency to travel, which will be the first half of June, so we'll work our honeymoon around that) and then I realized I was boohooing over having to schedule two vacations around a family wedding, and slapped myself in the face (figuratively). It'll turn out fine. Honestly if some of that side wants to only go to one wedding, they can go to his...but that's my own family dynamics.

Just be happy for them, everything will be fine.