Bridesmaid Due One Week Before Wedding

I don’t see why she needs to take time away from her newborn to be in your wedding, but I personally wouldn’t want to socialize so soon after giving birth.

You can still honor her by listing her in the program as a bridesmaid etc. But it is her choice if she will or will not physically be present on your day. She's still your good friend, so you shouldn't like say she can't be a bridesmaid or anything.

I've been in a wedding where one of the groomsmen was deployed before the wedding, and the bride and groom still made sure his name was on everything and everyone knew they were thinking of him.

I wouldn’t officially tell her she’s out, but I really wouldn’t count on her being there. I think it’s nice to put her in the program but I wouldn’t fuss over a dress or the processional order.

It could go either way honestly. She could give birth a couple weeks early and be 3 weeks postpartum at your wedding, and feel up to going out and participating by then. Or, she could give birth a week late and be in labor on your wedding day. Or she could be OVER a week late, and be super super pregnant on your wedding day. There is no way to predict! If I were you I would just make sure she knows that you would love to have her there if she is up to it, but that you totally understand if she isn't. Write her into your programs and plan for her to participate... but be ready to make changes to your processional order, seating chart, etc if she isn't able to come.

Yeah I mean I would still have her listed and if she can’t come then that’s that, you’ll get why and it should be ok

I'd just ask her what she was thinking. If she still thinks she wants to participate, let her know that it's okay if things change.

I'd keep things as if she would be there, but adjust your expectations so you aren't upset or disappointed if she can't make it. Then she's honored in anything listing the bridesmaids, etc. but no one is upset if she ends up not coming.

Talk with her and find out HER feelings on it. You can always leave her in the party and just be prepared in case she isn't able to attend or doesn't feel up to it if she does give birth before the wedding (have a back up plan for the procession order especially, maybe mention wishing she could attend in a speech, but that you're thrilled with her happy news). Really, what everyone else thinks is irrelevant to the situation. Talk to your friend and be prepared to work with whatever she wants to do.

Girl I am in the same boat except TWO are due, one is due 3 days before the wedding and the other is due 2 or 3 weeks before. This might be long, I apologize in advance!
The girl that is due 3 days before is my cousin, and this will be her fourth kid. Apparently she is always fertile because it seems like every time she has sex with her hubby she gets pregnant... we had talked about her getting a dress and sitting with the guests so she wouldn't have to stand, and she was totally okay with that, and told me that she could also induce to have her baby a little earlier in order to be more healed, and assured me she would be fine. Well, her husband talked her out of it so much to the fact that he didn't even want her going to the wedding so he wouldn't have to stay at home with the other three kids (just come with the whole gang? There would have been plenty of family around to help).
I wasn't upset with her about getting pregnant or anything, but what made me frustrated was that she admitted her husband thought she shouldn't go to the wedding at ALL and he seemed to contradict her on how well she would recover. I took a day to answer her when she told me this, and I essentially asked what happened to our plan, and stated that I hoped she could at least make the wedding but also have a healthy delivery.The second girl who is pregnant but due weeks before is planning on having her baby about 3 weeks before based on prior complications with her first baby that she wants to avoid. She has reassured me several times, and recently, that she will be able to come to the wedding with her second baby and that she will feel well enough to come. (Both these girls are best friends, btw). This girl has been more like a sister than a friend, and lately seems to be more excited about the wedding than my cousin, and seems to even communicate with my MOH and me more about wedding planning.
My advice would be to talk to her about it. Perhaps offer her the understanding that if she has to duck out of the room to take a break of if she's in pain, let it be known that you wouldn't mind it. You could also offer that you hope everything with the delivery goes well and that she will be able to make it to the wedding, even if it's for a short amount of time. Some people can bounce back fast, but everyone is different.

I can't find a way to edit my comment, but I wanted to say also thag I definitely agree with what the other ladies are saying!

View Quoted Comment Thanks all for the advice! We had a talk and I told her it was ultimately her decision and I would be fine either way. The more I thought about it, the more I realized I’d rather have uneven sides than upset one of my friends. Also, I’m really glad I went with that decision because we can’t even have our wedding in November due to COViD. So when we reschedule this won’t be an issue!