Bridesmaid due date near wedding in Mexico

Your doctor won't let you travel that close to your due date. I think you should sit this one out I'm sure your friend will understand and forgive you it's not worth the risk for you or baby.

I think that it is highly unlikely that you would be physically able to attend her wedding at 38 weeks pregnant. I'm assuming that you don't live in Mexico or within a very short drive of her wedding location, and flying in your third trimester is a no go. A long car ride is also a bad idea. On top of that, if her wedding is in a location where Zika is a concern you should also be concerned, like the other guests you mentioned - according to the CDC pregnant women should not travel to areas with a Zika outbreak. Zika can be passed from the pregnant woman to the fetus and can cause severe fetal brain defects including microcephaly (that's how they identified Zeka in the first place - women in South and Central America were giving birth to an unusual amount of babies with microcephaly). Your partner can also be infected with Zika via a mosquito bite and pass it to you through bodily fluids like saliva or semen, and if they're infected their fluids remain infectious for weeks to months (and since many people are infected without showing signs you basically have to act like one of you is infected and use condoms etc. for at least 8 weeks post-exposure just in case). It's just not worth the risk, especially given your recent loss, and that's without the issue of traveling to another country 2 weeks before your due date.

I know you want to be there for your friend, and I'm sure she knows it too. Don't feel guilty for getting pregnant; you have to live your life on your own schedule, and with whatever choices you made/were able to make at the time given what you were going through. You'll both be sad, but you can always celebrate together in your own way; if your friend gets angry I'd try to chalk it up to misplaced sadness at the idea of you not being at her side (and a bit of bride brain). At the end of the day hopefully your friend will remember that your and your child's health and safety have to come first by necessity, and that you would absolutely be there with her if you had a choice.

Congratulations on your rainbow baby! How very exciting for you!

I am currently 37 weeks pregnant and there is no way that I would fly out of the country even if my doctors gave the ok (which they wouldn't). Once you hit 36 weeks the doctors prepare you to get ready to go at any time. I don't even want to drive more than an hour away from my hospital at this point because you just never know.

You absolutely should not feel guilty about getting pregnant and being due around your friend's wedding. You have every right to plan your family for when it works best for you and your SO, not for anyone else. I'm sure your friend will be disappointed that you aren't there which is completely understandable, but she has no right to get angry with you. If she does, that's on her and not your fault. Just tell her that you're so disappointed that you're going to miss her wedding and see if there is some other way that you can celebrate before or after the wedding.

Congratulations again!!!

You shouldn't travel to Mexico at any stage of pregnancy is there is still a Zika risk. I also don't think you can fly on a plane after 32 weeks due to liability for the airlines.

If your friend makes you feel guilty for this baby, she is not a very good friend.

Congrats! I don't even know that your doctor would allow you to fly at that point, she will definitely understand. There is a difference between zika fears and "I couldnt come if I wanted to, I could have a baby any day now and my doctor won't let me fly 2 weeks before labor." It is unfortunate, but it sounds like you don't have a choice between going or not, just a choice on how to tell her. Even if she usually would not be one of the first people you tell, I would make her one of them now so that you can tell her right away what you plan on doing about the wedding and she isn't hearing anything second hand. If you are crazy busy with baby things and tired from pregnancy, you can let her know you have to step down fully from being a bridesmiad, but if you feel up to the task, you could let her know if she is alright with it you would still love to help with the bridal shower and bachelorette party and support her in those ways.

I would go ahead and tell the bride. Let her know you won't be able to attend the wedding. She'll understand and giving her a lot of notice helps.

Oh my gosh, do not feel guilty at all. You have to put your health first. For someone (like your friend possibly) who is not planning to get pregnant anytime soon, Zika may not feel like a big deal. But it's one of those things that I would never ever take a chance with because the repercussions are so incredibly severe - and SO preventable.

Also, it's unlikely that you would get clearance from your doctor to travel - even by car - more than an hour-ish away from your chosen hospital at 38 weeks pregnant.

I think if your friend doesn't understand the reason you are declining, than she is absolutely putting her wedding vision above a friend and that is not ok.

I think it's highly unlikely that your doctor would even let you travel that close to your due date. It sounds like this is a very close friend and she should understand your concerns / doctors orders when it comes time. I would tell her as soon as you "are in the clear". You could apologize for not being able to travel for her wedding and let her know how much you wish you could attend, but you shouldn't be sorry about not waiting to get pregnant! It is your life and future and hopefully she will just be super excited for you as you take this next step in your life. It sounds like she will be excited for you since she knows your past and was there for you during such a devastating time.

Congrats on your pregnancy! Very sorry to hear of the previous situation. As many others have said, you likely will not be cleared to travel that far into your pregnancy. Even if you were, why would you want to risk it? Not to mention the citizenship hassle this can cause. Yikes.... Ultimately the health of you and your baby are ABSOLUTELY number one priority. If she really is your best friend, she will of course understand. Do not feel bad about the timing of things, this is a blessing! I would wait until you are in the clear, then have a sit down talk with her about it. You can still be a friend and help her plan and be involved in her shower and local events. You are not asking her to plan her life around yours, and she should not expect that from you either. This is a legit concern and she should understand and support your family’s needs.