Bridesmaid dropped out 2 months before

Wow, that’s awful; I’m so sorry! You could always tell her that you understand her not being able to be a bridesmaid, but you’d like some money back as she had originally said she would be in your party. It’ll be an awkward conversation, but it sounds like it’d be best for you both.

That's really bad on her part. It would be a really awkward convo to have about money and is worth having if you spent a lot on her. If the amount isnt much to you then id just drop it and reconsider your friendship with her.

I meant reconsider as in - maybe she's not a good friend to have after all

I personally would be upset. I would not make a commitment to be a bridesmaid if I was unable to fully commit. It sounds like she's doing you a favor. I know you may be hurt, but you want people standing by you that love you and WANT to be there. It's your wedding day you shouldn't be a second choice. I hate to judge but she doesn't sound like a very good friend. I hope you get through this and have a wonderful wedding.

Am so sorry love that happened to you. Especially if you footed the bill for everything for her. I also lost my matron of honor and one of our groomsmen (they're married). They literally dropped off the earth after our engagement party, then decided it would be best to drop out of the wedding party 2 months ago. If I was you I would focus on your wedding for now, then at some point I would definitely talk to her about all the money you spent for her to flake on you right before your big day. Best of luck.

I’m so sorry that’s awful !! I would let her know that she’s upset you and that you do expect to be paid back. But otherwise I would just go ahead without her

Ok. Thanks but no thanks.

Wow I am soooooo sorry. I don't want to judge, but if she's treating you this way now, do you really wanna look back at wedding photos with her in them?
Is she that special to you?

We just had a groomsman drop out a few days ago and we are 72 days out. I've had my date set for nearly 2 years. No excuses. People suck.

She sounds like you're not friends. Don't let her ruin your wedding day, just let her go now, she's clearly not into it.

Wow, so sorry this happened to you! It's definitely upsetting, but I agree with everyone above... it sucks that you spent $$$ and it's not easy to push it aside, but at the end of the day your wedding is about you and your person, and if she can't get behind you 110% after everything that you did for her to be included, then you're better without her there! If it gives you a bit more peace, you could try to bury the hatchet and tell her that it would mean a lot of she would be there for you on this day, and that be that. But she made her choice, I would probably not be friends with that person anymore if it were me.

The point of bridesmaids is not just for the planning... but for the best, STRONGEST, closest, most supportive people to be standing right next to you as you enter into a new chapter because they WANT to be there for YOU. It does not sound like she is that person for you at all.

She has made her message clear. Say, have fun with your in-laws. Let her go. End if story. Some friendships run their course, and clearly you will be nothing more than acquaintance s in the future. Not worth getting upset at. Cancel all the things for her, change the seating, done.

I would just cut her loose. There still might be time to cancel some of the items and get a refund. Maybe send the shoes back or resell on ebay. Not many people out there would treat a friend the way she is treating you. She made a commitment to you and she should honor it. Also if you did try to convince her, successfully, that she still has to come; there is a chance that she will have an attitude all day. That will only serve to drag you down on your day.

Tell her its fine to drop and then I'd stop reaching out to her and let the friendship fade out. Once you're married and taking more big exciting steps in life with your spouse you're only going to want truly good friends around you. This friend is definitely not a good one.

Wow that is terrible but seems like things are working out for the best. I would hate to see what drama or horrible memories she makes on the day of. Good riddance! I’d definitely mention to her that she needs to pay you back the money you have spent for her. It may be costly to take her to court but the principle here is be a better person, like you can’t do that to people lol 🙄. I hope you can still go on with planning and your wedding day without thinking about this too much. You are absolutely fantastic for being so generous to your bridal party!

I don't see this ending very well either way. What she did was not something a true friend would do. You might want to have a convo about money but if she has done something like this, she probably will stiff you on expenses too. Sorry you are having to deal with this, this person is not someone I would want to have as a friend

I totally feel your pain. My wedding is in about 2 and half months and i’m one of my bridesmaids dropped out today. I freaked out. Panic mode, then felt betrayed (for whatever reason) but i had a gut feeling that it would happen. I made sure to ask her on numerous occasions if she’s sure who will be able to do it and that it won’t be uncomfortable so for her since she doesn’t know my family too well. And when she sent the “i can’t do it text” one of the reasons was that she didn’t know any of the other bridesmaid which i laid out from day one and made sure she felt comfortable. I tried to plan events where we will all meet out and just hang out . I love them all so i knew they would get along great . Their personalities match mine (except for my out of do too cousin) but my best friend would of meshed well with her. I’m still hurt since the wound is fresh and now i have to either find a replacement or drop a groomsmen. My fiancé is really upset because choosing these people took time and careful consideration so he doesn’t want to drop anyone . I have no idea what to do. The only
2 close people that i fully trusted were already chosen and one let me down. I have no one else to choose . It really sucks. And i have to probably donate her bridesmaid gift to someone that has her same name since it’s already engraved . i should have seen it coming smh.

View Quoted Comment I’ve been saying that for years . But even when you think there a pinch of hope , someone shows you how much they suck and we’re back to square one. Hurts but hey , what can we do?!