Bridesmaid Drop outs

I am surprised people are declining already. November 2021 is a while away, and who knows what will happen in that time. There’s still enough time to get dresses ect, or to pick a new person. My DW is 1 maid of honour, and 2 groomsmen. That’s all we need!

I’m sorry you have to be dealing with this already.

I don’t think it’s fair to drop the people that are still in the bridal party just because other people didn’t feel comfortable. People have uneven sides all the time, it’s no big deal.

Sorry you’re dealing with this. I know they said that it’s due to Covid, but I’m sure there’s also many other factors I’m guessing. I could be wrong, but generally if people truly want to be there they will usually make it happen. Sometimes we don’t always realize that even some of our closest friends may be in rough financial situations. Sometimes it’s extremely hard for people to save even for things like Christmas or birthdays, let alone a trip to Mexico for a destination wedding. Is there a particular reason why you want to get married in Mexico? Have you ever given it a thought to maybe get married more close to home? If you have your heart set on Mexico then definitely go for it, but destination weddings are tricky because of the financial burden it places on others

We had drop outs having nothing to do with covid. We just adjusted our processional order and canceled their flowers. I would keep going with the friends you have. Plus it’s still another year and a half, they might change their minds.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advise! It was definitely disappointing because our wedding is still so far away.

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Yea, I super surprised. And now very thankful no one has dropped out for us. It could be a financial thing too, since covid is really messing with people’s finances. Everyone attending our DW has been saving since I announced it, and everyone invited really wants to come to Jamaica, and have a holiday, and be there for the wedding we all thought I would never have lol. Good luck and stay positive!

View Quoted Comment I agree there could be other reasons but so far they’ve only mentioned Covid. It seemed like they were onboard at first, even helped with some of the planning. I did visit and look at local venues in the beginning of my planning but most were too expensive. Since I’ve always really wanted to have a destination wedding I decided to just go for it. Ultimately I’m prepared to postpone or even have a local wedding if things continue to get worse with Covid so I was just surprised that they dropped out so early.

View Quoted Comment I agree there could be other reasons but so far they’ve only mentioned Covid. It seemed like they were onboard at first, even helped with some of the planning. I did visit and look at local venues in the beginning of my planning but most were too expensive. Since I’ve always really wanted to have a destination wedding I decided to just go for it. Ultimately I’m prepared to postpone or even have a local wedding if things continue to get worse with Covid so I was just surprised that they dropped out so early.

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I hear you! DW has always been what I wanted too. Maybe they change their minds in 6 months....? It’s just so far out, especially if you are prepared to postpone if things aren’t better. Regardless it just super sucks you are dealing with this.

View Quoted Comment That’s awesome! When is your wedding date?

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We postponed to May 2021 ☺️ Fingers crossed international travel will be safe by then!

View Quoted Comment Yes! Hoping for the best🤞🤞

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advice! I think I will just stick with who we have.

The groomsmen and your bridesmaid are still on board. What would be your reason for dropping them?

Ooh girl this sucks. But I think they had other reasons to cancel. Maybe cost to attend? I wouldn’t worry about uneven sides. And people may come around closer to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Tell me about it! Yea we’re going to continue with who we have and hope the best 😊

I think it’s OK to continue with the people that you already have

I just possibly lost a groomsman but not because of COVID but due to military reasons. As my fiancé and I were planning our bridal party my future mother in law said “why does the party have to be even” and it’s a good thought, I understand we all want perfect pictures but maybe it’s not necessary to be even

I ended up leaving out my bridal party at our mini wedding we had this year. I did not finalize for our vow renewal next year due to the event still being tentative.

In the last few years people have started concrete planning earlier and earlier and earlier. And a major consequence has been problems created for the wedding party. Since the bridal party need not start doing things until the last 6 months, the traditional time to name bridal parties has always been in the last year, recommended 7-9 months at most. Bridal parties asked too early often do no make it til the wedding. For a wedding still 16 months away, you should leave things be until about 8 months out. Then see if you want some new bridesmaids. Because BM dresses cost less than the bride's and are mostly ( except $500 plus) delivered 2-8, sometimes 10 weeks after order, most BM can avoid paying $150-$300 in alterations on a $150-$250 dress by not ordering it until 4 months out so sizes do not change. No plans at all for BM grooming need to be made until the last 5 months when they select dresses. So just back off on any wedding planning other than things that just involve you, the groom, your ceremony invitations, food, music. You may lose others still, if their lives change. So start fresh, in six to seven months. Most people do not stay consistently excited for someone else for 1-3 years. You asked for commitments too early. Hope things are more predictable for everyone down the line.