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FutureMrsHadi
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Bridesmaid dresses?

FutureMrsHadi, on September 17, 2019 at 12:39 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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So I need some advice on how to handle a situation. Keep in mind, my wedding is still about a year away so I'm not really stressing about this yet, but just want to see how to handle this well.

We're doing a bohemian style wedding in August and originally I had told my bridesmaids I was fine with them picking different styles of dresses as long as the colors we're fairly similar. Then a couple weeks ago I found a dress that I fell in love with and thought would look amazing on all of my bridesmaids and my FSIL and MOH agreed. So I messaged it to the group chat and no one had an issue with it. The problem is, the largest size the dress comes in is a 12 (XL) and when we took measurements for my sister and my oldest niece, we found out they're a size 14 (XXL) so the dress won't fit them. I could tell my sister kind of felt bad about it and I was trying to reassure her that it didn't matter to me. Obviously I don't want my niece and sister to feel bad about the dress not fitting. And what I'm worried about is that if all my bridesmaids are in the one dress that we decided on and they have to wear something different that they'll feel embarrassed or that they stand out. Should I just go back to having everyone in different dresses?

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Latest activity by Cher Horowitz, on September 17, 2019 at 3:24 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I wouldn't have everyone wear the same dress except for two people, especially the two largest people. I think they will definitely stand out.

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  • Ally
    Dedicated July 2020
    Ally ·
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    I would go back to everyone wearing different dresses.


    Or, you may be able to have the two larger girls (and however many more of your bridesmaids you'd need to make it work) wear a different dress in a different color and have them stand in an alternating order. This would make the dress style difference seem purposeful and they wouldn't stand out as much. Bridesmaid A wears a Blue Dress, Bridesmaid B wears a Silver Dress, Bridesmaid C wears a Blue Dress, etc.

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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    If the two biggest girls are the only ones in different dresses not only will they feel terrible but it’ll look terrible too. I’d give them a color (“Azazie steel blue” or “David’s Bridal regency”, or whatever), and let them choose what works for their budget and body type.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I agree with this. Can just your MOH wear that dress? I'd try to find 5 or so other options (that come in a size 14 and bigger) and let all the girls pick from those options.

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  • FutureMrsHadi
    Dedicated May 2021
    FutureMrsHadi ·
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    Okay, this is kind of what I'd been feeling too. We already ordered one of that dress for my MOH (just because we wanted to make sure the color was right before buying all of them). So I'll just find other options for the other girls. Thanks all! Smiley heart

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  • L. Thomson
    Expert October 2020
    L. Thomson ·
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    I have bridesmaids that are on opposite sides of the size spectrum. Instead of making them wear matching dresses that they wear once and feel self conscious in, I asked them to pick their own dresses as long as they are black. That way the dresses will fit their individual body shape and they will feel confident and beautiful. Besides, every woman can use a good black dress and they can then wear it on another occasion. I always hated the idea of a bridesmaid spending money on a dress they wear once.
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  • FutureMrsHadi
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    FutureMrsHadi ·
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    Yes, I totally agree! The dress that I ended up finding definitely doesn't look like a bridesmaid dress and I think it's casual enough that they could have worn it for other occasions. I also think it would have been really flattering on everyone, if only it came one size bigger. Oh well! It was my original plan to have them pick out their own individual dresses, so not the biggest deal.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I would go back to everyone having different dresses. Your niece and sister would probably feel a lot more comfortable this way!

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