Erin
Just Said Yes July 2020

Bridesmaid Dresses

Erin, on October 20, 2019 at 9:43 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 19
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Am I the only one struggling with Bridesmaids dresses? It took me forever to pin down colors! Now that I have my colors and my MOH has picked her dress, we have an appointment coming up for all the girls. I just can’t seem to decide what I want them in! My dress was sooooo easy, too easy really! I knew it was the one as soon as I put it on, but everyone else I’m lost with! I’m on the verge of just throwing in the towel and saying here’s your color you have free reign! 🤦🏼‍♀️

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Honestly I don’t think that’s a bad idea. It gives each girl the opportunity to find something that fits their body type. That’s pretty common now so might be something to consider.
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  • Erin
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Erin ·
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    I forgot to put in that I have always wanted to let them pick their own dresses, I was just going to narrow it down to a specific fabric or group of dresses. But even that’s harder to do than it seems. I know it will all work out in the end!
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  • Bella
    Savvy July 2020
    Bella ·
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    That's what I did with my bridesmaids! It went SO smoothly! I told them a color, length, designer and fabric (only the chiffon came in the color I wanted.) Everyone was able to pick out their own dresses and they were seemingly content! What made me realize even more that it was the right choice was that EVERY bridesmaid picked a different dress! It goes to show that everyone is comfortable in different types of dresses and I'm glad they all were able to pick what they felt best in.
    If you are comfortable with the potential of everyone in a different dress, I highly suggest it!
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  • V
    VIP July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Honestly I would just pick a color and length and let them choose the style they like. I wanted all of my girls in the exact same dress and it was a nightmare shopping. We had one day to go shopping as some of the girls were from one state and some were from another so we met up and went to four different stores. The first three stores had nothing in the color I wanted even though I called beforehand to confirm they had the right color, length and dresses within our budget and that they could be tried on that day We ended up at David's Bridal. I picked a dress for them, but I wish I had let them pick their own. The dress ended up not properly fitting my sister who was also my maid of honor and less than a week before the wedding she got a different dress. The rest of the girls worn the dress I originally picked. It would have been so much easier to tell them to pick any long dress in a specific color from a specific store rather than what I did.
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  • Catherine
    June 2020
    Catherine ·
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    I actually think when you give open or too many choices it is harder.

    My daughter picked 3 dresses she liked and thought would look good on each of her girls and then told them to add one or two of their choice for all to try.

    Five girls, all different shapes and sizes showed up at Davids Bridal together, found the original 3 and added 1 or 2 more dresses and all went into the dressing rooms. The girls would all come out and pick the one they liked best on each other. All of them ended up liking one of the ones my daughter had originally picked. Then it just came down to skin tones and dress color. The plum looked great on all of them. The wisteria made the lighter skin girls seem a bit washed out but the MoH's darker skin looked great in it. So BM's in plum, MoH in wisteria. Off to lunch!

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  • Taylor
    Super October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    I ended up choosing the brand (David's Bridal), color (Biscotti), fabric (chiffon) and length (Long). I gave them free reign to pick the dress. There are over 50 options to choose from that fall into that criteria. I have literally every single body type in my bridal party. Tallest is 5'10" and shortest is 4'10". Some are pear shaped and others are apple shaped. Two of them live on en entirely different continent. I figured trying to find one dress that was flattering on every single one of them would be a huge pain. This way, they're happy and they can also find something in their price range. Some options are under $100.

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  • Kate
    Devoted November 2019
    Kate ·
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    I chose the color and my MOH chose the dress. However, I somehow ended up with a MOH & bridesmaids that are all roughly the same height (all 4 of them are between 5'4" - 5'6") and are within a couple sizes of each other. 2 girls are brunette, and 2 are blonde. 100% coincidence how that worked out.

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  • Kendra
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kendra ·
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    I let my bridesmaids pick a style they were comfortable in, but had restrictions. Such as no lace (because my dress is lace and there are so many different types of lace I didn’t want them to clash), long, and no bling.
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  • Melissa
    Savvy May 2020
    Melissa ·
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    I am having this same problem! I am so indecisive with colors- I keep going back and forth. I know I need to decide soon, we are a little over 7 months out (May 23), but I just can't decide! as soon as I convince myself I made up my mind, a few days later I change it haha! Any advice would be fantastic!

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  • Erin
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Erin ·
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    I can be extremely indecisive, and while my mom has been very adamant about everything being my choice and not wanting her opinions or anyone else’s clothing mine, this was one place she decided to step in. She finally just said here, you keep going back to this so these are your colors and I am so grateful for that!!! Ask your mom or MOH to help decide or give them three options you like and have them pick. Then have your girls buy their dresses ASAP so you can’t change your mind! Lol
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  • Meghan
    Beginner June 2020
    Meghan ·
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    My bridesmaids and I met up at one our local malls to try on different styles of dresses from different department stores to decide on what they wanted neckline, dress type, and length wise before we went to a bridal salon to look. All the girls had agreed that they wanted a long dress with off the shoulder straps. Fast forward to bridal salon appointment and they all ended up with long dresses, but with different fabrics, necklines, and dress types. They all were given a color choice of navy, sage, and lavender. All of them are doing navy. And each dress has an element or two that ties it to the other dresses so they don't clash.


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  • Erin
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Erin ·
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    I think this is where I have struggled the most, the fabrics! This makes me feel better about using different fabrics if that’s the route we end up going!
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  • N
    Dedicated November 2019
    Nita ·
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    With fabric I would just recommend having everyone in a similar type of fabric (shiny or not shiny) beyond that i don’t think I matters much.

    I had one friend give no guidance with fabric and only one bm ended up in satin. I know it bothers her that in her pictures were all wearing light, not shiny dresses and only one bm’s dress is shiny.
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  • Sinéad
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2025
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    Your girls look gorgeous Meghan!

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  • Meghan
    Beginner June 2020
    Meghan ·
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    Thank you Sinéad
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I picked a color, fabric & length from Azazie and let my girls pick their own dress. They also picked their own shoes & jewelry. They all looked cohesive & complimentary, without all being exactly the same. They were all different sizes & shapes & styles, so I didn't want to pick one dress for everyone.

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  • Meghan
    VIP October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    That is what I did. I told my girls the name of the color and the place to buy the dress and let them pick whatever they wanted. They just sent me photos of the dresses they were interested in for my opinion before making a final decision. It worked out perfectly! I didn't have to worry over picking out their dresses, everyone got a dress they loved and felt great in, and it look beautiful in our photos!

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  • Andrea
    Expert May 2020
    Andrea ·
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    That’s what I’m doing with my bridesmaids too. I will have two potentially pregnant and one that just gave birth a few months before and my maid of honor (sister) is a lot more modest than my best friends so it’s all for the best to let them pick their own. I want everyone to feel sexy and comfortable in what they’re wearing. Definitely not a “one dress fits all” crew
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  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·
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    I knew I wouldn't be able to get everyone together to try on dresses, so I went online, and I picked some that I liked. But I know everyone has a different body type, so I wanted them all to feel comfortable and beautiful. So, I have it narrowed down to like 8 different dresses for them to choose from.

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