Bridesmaid dresses- who pays?

You ask your bridesmaids what they are comfortable spending. If you are requiring a dress not in their price range, you pay.

Yes, they do. But you can run it by them and see if that is okay with them.

Bridesmaids typically pay for theirs. But before you select your dress you need to speak to them about budget. I had my MOH who said she had a budget of 350. Another one said no budget, one said 200, and a final one said 150. There's a huge range and it's important to stay in that range.

I paid for all my BM dresses.

They do but if you're feeling generous you could buy them

This post annoyed me. "We're all well off" I personally wouldn't pay that for a dress I'm going to wear one time. It's not a wedding dress. I didn't even pay that for a prom dress.

I am going to pay for them because my matron of honor is my cousin and the bridesmaid is my best friend flying from HK.

My BMs are paying for their own.

The bridesmaids usually pay. You should've asked your bridesmaids individually what they're comfortable spending. Then you look for a dress at the lowest range.

But since you've found ones you like, you need to ask yourself if you're willing to pick something cheaper if your bridesmaids think $350 is too much. If you're adamant about these dresses then I think you need to at least pay the difference (between $350 and the lowest range).

They Pay, but 350 is way too much.

First of all, you need to run budgets by your bridesmaids individually. It doesn't matter that you think they are as "well off" as you and your FH. That doesn't mean they don't have bills or would rather spend it on something besides a stupid dress they will never wear again. After that, you take the bridesmaid with the lowest dress budget as your budget for BM dresses. Find a dress that costs that much and your BMs pay for it. Find a dress over that and you pay for it.

Bridesmaids usually buy their own dresses but I'd ask them what their budgets are. If you buy for one you must buy for all.

That sounds like a me a lot to me for a BM dress (and no, they will probably not wear it again).

If you're well off then maybe you should buy them for your girls

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Ask your girls if they are okay paying that much for a dress. I work at a bridal boutique in New York, and on average, bridesmaid dresses do run between $200 - $300 in bigger cities. It does depend on what you're looking for though, and there are many more reasonable options out there too. Many good bridesmaids will pay for the dresses, no matter the cost, but if you're a good bride, why would you want to put them out? Ask your girls if they are okay with the price point (if they really love the dress, they may be more flexible to pay for it even if it's over their budget), then go for it. If not, find a more reasonable "dupe", or since money doesn't seem to be an issue, pay for the dresses. Bridesmaids have to pay for a lot, and while it's an honor to be asked, it can be a very costly thing. Be considerate of your girls.

I'm glad that you were able to fit in there how well off you are

I won't say if my husband and I are or aren't well off. Do I have the money for a $350 dress? ya... Would I want to spend it to wear for half a day at a wedding? Heck, no.

I wouldn't follow Kira's advice. That's a great way to make them feel pressured to say yes to something they can't afford or don't wish to spend their money on. You ask them individually and privately what their budget is and then find a dress/dresses that works with the lowest budget, keeping in mind alterations costs. You don't tell them that you found a $350 dress that you love and then ask them if they are able pay that.

I agree with FutureMrsH. The "well off" comment really rubbed me the wrong way. No way in hell would I spend $350 on a BM dress. That's more than half of my wedding dress. Regardless of whether you are "well off", I think that's just stupid. But since you are all well off, go for it. Why are you asking us!

BM's technically should pay for their own dresses, but within a reasonable budget. This is what each of them considers reasonable, not you.

If you want BM's to have a particular shoe and/or professional hair and makeup the you would pay for that.