Bridesmaid dresses delivered! But to add a cape or shawl?

I like the shawl look better. But I'm honestly not sure why this dress was selected since you are worried it doesn't cover enough. That is something I would have considered before the girls purchased their dresses.

View Quoted Comment I agree. The dress guidelines should have been given to you before dresses were purchased.


That said, I prefer the cape. While shawls are nice, they rarely stay in place and not everyone will wear them after the wedding. You should cover the costs of them though.

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Back story: I had bridesmaid dress delima with my sister (MOH) and she didn't like the original dress I picked. I wanted to find something that all the girls would like and agree on. I also paid for all the dresses. I also plan on buying the cape or shawl.

They all like this one, I like this one too. I just know my future MIL would not be happy without having something covered just at least for the ceremony. At the reception and for pictures this is totally fine.

View Quoted Comment I would have let your sister as maid of honor wear a different dress. Now you have to spend more money on something that you otherwise wouldn't have had to purchase. I also think you need to not let others opinions be your deciding factor for planning your wedding.

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Thanks! Will definately be purchasing it for them.

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I really wanted them to all wear the same dress. I also don't mind spending the extra money since I got a really good deal on the dresses. I think any bridesmaid dress we picked would have needed a shawl or cape since at the church we are going for a little more modest look.

The catholic church weddings I've been to, the bridesmaids usually wear something over their dress to cover at least their shoulders and then take it off at the reception.

I prefer the cape, by far. Carrying a bouquet or a cocktail, the first place to end up uncovered would be what you want covered
for modesty. I always like the choice of a shoulder covering , if outside more than a half hour. I burn, and sunscreen is too messy around formal wear. Shawls always expose the most burnable. A print chiffon would work, too.

I vote for cape. Shawl won’t stay put, and cape look more elegant. Besides, their hands would be free to carry their bouquet and help you in case they need too.

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Thanks! Yes, they would have a bouquet in hand during the ceremony so making sure it stays on right is preferred!

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Thanks! Yes, that is true, they would have a free hand to help me!

I prefer the shawl, but honestly see nothing wrong with this dress fir a church wedding as it is.

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Thanks! We don't start meeting with the church on marriage preparations until next month so I didn't think too much about it at the time.

I've reached out though to see if they have any guidelines or restrictions on dresses.

I think the shawl would look much better in the ivory accent color.

Shawl is better . The cover up looks like my grandma would wear this lol

I like the shaw better but the cape is probably more practical for holding flowers or whatever you are having. One hand slip and the shaw falls

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Thanks, my dress is also more of an ivory color so that could work.

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You're very welcome

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Lol thanks for the feedback!

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My thoughts were if I did the shawl, I would find a way to have them wear it without it slipping or pinning it a certain way.