Haley
Beginner December 2021

Bridesmaid dresses - $295 - is this too much to ask?

Haley, on June 8, 2021 at 5:02 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 27
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Hi everyone,


I have four bridesmaids for my upcoming wedding in December. My maid of honor and I visited David’s Bridal to try on dresses but nothing really worked out. My mom mentioned Jenny Yoo and I’m in love with the selection of the Velvet dresses. The only problem is they are $295 each. Stepping into the shoes of my bridesmaids, a $300 dress is a lot to ask.
This brings me to my question. As a bridesmaid, how would you feel if you were asked to buy this dress? My thought was to let the ladies know, hey this is the dress I’d like you to wear and Please Let me know if you are uncomfortable with the price. If price is an issue for any/all bridesmaids, at that point I would step in and help pay for the dresses. Is this reasonable or should I find a cheaper option?

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Latest activity by Jessi, on June 9, 2021 at 4:06 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I would start by asking each of them how much they’re comfortable spending on a dress. That should give you an idea if this is reasonable. Personally, I would never spend that much on a dress to be a part of someone’s wedding, but I know others would.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    For something that will be worn only once, yes that is a lot. Even $100 for one time wear is a lot for some people. If you like velvet try Revelry.

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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    I agree with the previous poster and would reverse the way you ask the question. Instead, ask what they are comfortable with paying, and that will give you your answer. Asking if they can pay a specific amount like $300, etc. puts them in a tough position to feel comfortable saying No - they won't want to disappoint you.

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I personally think that's way too much (and it's never just the dress purchase price; there are also alterations, accessories, etc.). But it doesn't matter what I think. You need to ask each bridesmaid individually for her budget and then choose a dress that works for the lowest budget or buy all the dresses. If these dresses are the only ones that fit your vision, be prepared to pay for your vision.

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  • Carolyn
    Savvy October 2021
    Carolyn ·
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    I had to buy one this year and was not thrilled (although the dress was beautiful) - asking would be nice, but I agree you should ask their overall budget. Hard to say no to a bride Smiley smile

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  • Chelsea
    Savvy June 2021
    Chelsea ·
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    What I ended up doing is putting 60% down on the dresses from a local bridesmaids dress store and they paid the rest.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    Yes, I think that is way too much to ask. I'd ask them each individually how much they're comfortable spending on a dress, and then go from there. Or, I think it would be a lot more reasonable if you simply offered to pay for at least half. $150 is a great compromise

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  • H
    Devoted August 2023
    Heather ·
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    A friend of mine is really bitter about spending $400 for a bridesmaid dress that the bride insisted on. The dress looks no different or better than anything you could find on Azazie for a quarter of the price, but as Carolyn mentioned, it's hard to say no to a bride. I agree with everyone else that you should ask your bridesmaids what they're willing to spend so you can avoid inadvertently creating some resentment.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Check out Renz Rags on Etsy. They have lots of velvet dresses for a lot cheaper 🙂
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  • W
    Super September 2020
    Willow ·
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    I would not spend that much on a dress of my own choosing that I intended to rewear. Some off the rack wedding dresses cost 400. I almost picked one that was fitted, had flattering rouching, and a sweep train. 300 is too much for a bridesmaid


    I'd start with a lower price point
    Even if you ask each bridesmaid if she can afford it, it's an awkward convo to have, and almost putting them on the spot, ESP if you're starting high
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
    Ava ·
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    I wouldn’t mention any particular dress. I’d simply ask them what price point they are comfortable with and find a dress within that range. Or, if you are really set on those particular dresses, you could either pay for them, or you could pay the difference between the price of the dress and what each BM is comfortable with. So in other words, if you asked your BMs what they are comfortable spending and they say $150, you could pay the remaining $150.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    IMO $300 is way too much for a bridesmaid dress. Check out Vince Camuto at Macy's...can also find his dresses on Poshmark.
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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
    Grace ·
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    I would recommend asking each bridesmaid privately how much they are comfortable spending, especially if your bridesmaids are not all from the same group of friends.



    $300 is a lot for a dress. $100 is about average for what I have seen and about what I would expect to pay as a bridesmaid. That being said, if you decide those are the dresses you really want, you could compromise and pay for a large portion of it.

    Alternatively, look for similar dresses at a cheaper price point. That way your bridesmaids feel comfortable purchasing the dresses without you needing to contribute.
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  • Day
    Devoted July 2021
    Day ·
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    I paid about $230 for my bridesmaid dress. The wedding was postponed three times (understandably so) but in that time and in planning my own wedding, I ended up losing 10 lbs.... the dress was huge before the weight loss so I can only imagine how it hangs off of me now. I believe I’ll need to spend about the same amount on alterations or a new dress. And I will definitely not be wearing the dress again because it’s not my style.


    I would say $150 is a more comfortable price since alterations will push the price closer to $200.
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  • Chelsea G
    Devoted June 2021
    Chelsea G ·
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    I agree with everyone else. $300 is A LOT to spend on a dress. They’ll still need shoes, accessories and all the other events that go along with being in a bridal party. Like others said if you’re really set on it then you should offer to pay half. I think the average for a dress should be $150 or less.
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    As a bridesmaid, I wouldn't want to spend that much on a dress. You still have to consider the fact that they have to pay for their shoes, accessories, any events the bridal party has to help with the costs of, and/or hair and makeup.

    I really think you should find a dress similar that's cheaper. There's PLENTY of sites out there that sell beautiful velvet dresses that are more cost efficient. You could even send them the dress and let them know that's the style and color you want, and that if it's too expensive, if everyone could pitch in and help find one similar to it that's cheaper!

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  • Megan
    Super October 2020
    Megan ·
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    I know the allure of the Jenny Yoo velvet dresses. But I honestly couldn’t ask anyone to pay that much money.


    Less expensive alternatives are the dress company Revelry (personal experience), and Renz Rags on Etsy (lots of good reviews on here).
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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
    Katherine ·
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    My bridesmaid dresses were on the more expensive side but I made sure they all loved the dress enough to want to pay it. I also made sure it was a dress that they could possibly want to wear again. One of mine talked about cutting it shorter after the wedding. So I know they plan on reusing it.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I think that is ridiculously expensive for a BM dress and I would not feel comfortable at all with asking someone to pay that much. Especially when there are SO many affordable options out there.

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  • L
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    How many BM's do you have? If it were me and I really wanted these dresses, i'd cut down on something like flowers or decoration and just pay for them. I paid for my BM's dresses anyway, but especially in this case it makes a lot of sense.

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