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Amina
Dedicated January 2020

Bridesmaid dress orders

Amina, on November 25, 2019 at 7:30 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 20
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Currently only have 1 out of 10 dress orders in and 47 days out as of this morning. The girls are supposed to be ordering from Azazie and i’ve Told them which specific dress they need to order back in May and told them they can start to order their dress whenever since then. I’ve set about 4 different deadlines to order their dress because every time I did, no one would actually order it. They would all like the message acknowledging the deadline in the group chat but never actually do anything. I’ve been checking the estimated delivery date on azazie every week and if dresses were ordered today they would arrive the last week of December which is 2 weeks before the wedding and doesn’t leave much time for alterations if needed or for any possible issues with shipping because of the holiday. I’ve sent about 10 or more reminders at this point and I feel like they are all adults and I shouldn’t have to hand hold them and chase after them to do their one obligation as a bridesmaid. But with that said I’m scared I’m going to have girls come to me and say they didn’t order in enough time. I will have to tell them they can’t be in the wedding which will cause more issues for me for logistics and gifts and not having my friends up there with me because they can’t be responsible. I will definitely not stress myself out trying to figure out back up plans for then at the last minute though. Anyone else deal with s similar situation, what did you do?

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Latest activity by Kaitlyn, on November 25, 2019 at 4:10 PM
  • Danielle
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    My girls all got there dresses ordered because I setup the appointment and we all went together. But my bestie has let me pay for her concert tickets we're attending and hasn't paid me back knowing I'm planning this wedding and cash is not exactly flowing. I'm mad at her but if she doesn't pay me back by the concert date my son will be taking her place.
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  • Watts
    Super March 2020
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    I totally understand what you are feeling. I still have 3.5 months, but half the people in my wedding just told me they are going to start trying to lose a significant amount of weight, so they can't order for a few months. The dress we chose is custom and needs a few months of order time. One of my two MOH's is still fighting my dress choice because she won't wear it again and doesn't want to pay for a dress she won't wear again. I originally chose a dress everyone loved but her. She said she liked the color and fabric, though. So I gave them all 14 choices with that color and fabric so they could choose one they'd love and wear again. Now she says she just doesn't think she should have to spend $100 to be in the wedding. It's not that she can't, she just decided it's not worth it for her. But she still wants to be my MOH. So... 🤷‍♀️ I'm trying to figure out how to navigate this.
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  • Rachel
    Savvy July 2020
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    This is my biggest worry with my bridesmaids. Maybe just tell them that they need to order by X date and if they don’t then you’ll have to ask them to step down as a bridesmaid which you don’t want to do.
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  • Amina
    Dedicated January 2020
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    I really hope this would work as they have ignored the previous requests. But I hope that the thought of having to sit out will actually encourage them to finally take some action
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    Expert September 2020
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    This is why I’m really happy I decided not to have a bridal party.


    Sorry they aren’t cooperatinf
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  • Amina
    Dedicated January 2020
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    I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. For her to be your MOH she obviously had to be someone very close and important to you and for her to say being in your wedding isn’t worth $100 is a little worrisome to me. As well as how hostile she’s been towards your dress pick. She has to understand that this is your wedding and it’s all about what you and your FH want and she can’t get on board then is it really worth having her up there? It seems she may not be supportive because maybe she’s jealous? Also, who actually wears their bridesmaid dress again? Let’s be honest, all brides say you can but we all know you most likely won’t. She should be happy to buy the dress because she will be up supporting you not on the basis of convenience for her or any other selfish reasons. Do you really want that energy around on your special day?
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  • Amina
    Dedicated January 2020
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    You know I’ve been contemplating just cutting all of them to save my sanity lol I probably wouldn’t have had one if I had to do it over
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  • Amber
    Super September 2020
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    Girl, that's my biggest fear but thankfully, the bridal store I'm getting my BM dresses they don't ship out the orders until each BM put's down the deposit for their dresses because they prefer to order them all together so the dresses are cut from the same colored cloth.
    I would personally call each BM and ask them to oder their dresses ASAP or they are no longer in your wedding nor a guest at your wedding.
    I would've had BM just gave me the money for their dresses and ordered the dresses my own self. Best way to get things taken care of.
    Good luck girl🤞🙏they all order their dresses it's definitely one less stressful thing you can cross off your list.
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  • Dierdra
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    I'm grateful most if my party is family so I just threaten to tell their parents - haha!
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  • Amina
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Lol I love this!
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  • Taylor
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    I wouldn't say anything at this point. As you said, you should not have to hold their hands. If their dress doesn't come in on time, make them guests. It's not like you've been withholding information. They're being irresponsible. I understand that it's not their big day but when they agreed to be a bridesmaid, they agreed to take on the one responsibility of buying a dress. If they can't manage, that's on themSmiley smile Don't stress!!

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  • Taylor
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    I'd tell your MOH that she'll buy the dress you chose or she will not be standing next to you at the alter. For someone to try to guilt you into changing what you want on your wedding day, especially your MOH, is incredibly selfish and rude. She took on the responsibility of buying the dress of your choice when she agreed to be you MOH. I've had some tacky comments about the color dresses I chose (taupe) because it will "wash them out". Y'all drop $25k out of pocket on a wedding and then we can discuss the color choices. Until then, keep your mouth shut Smiley xd You do you boo!

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  • Watts
    Super March 2020
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    Taupe is an awesome color! It'll also help the bouquets pop really well. I chose a dark mauve velvet. I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, but I gave them 14 styles to choose from.
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  • Watts
    Super March 2020
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    I totally agree, I don't want that negativity up there. Unfortunately, there isn't any way to easily confront that. I'm just hoping she'll correct herself. My other MOH is super great, and my bridesmaids are being really cooperative and sweet.
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  • Kiara
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    I def understand how your feeling. don't stress because you gave them more than enough times to get their dress & if they don't get it intime them shame on them... I took my girld shopping twice the maid of honors are the only ones who started payments on their dresses..

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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
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    At some point they are going to have to grow up and be responsible. If they can't, then they can be a guest. You can only enable them for so long. If it were me, I'd rather they not be up there if they can't do the one thing that is their responsibility when you asked for them to join you in your bridal party. Barring any unforeseen emergency, their lack of willingness to follow the more than appropriate deadline shows that they are not really that concerned about supporting you on your big day. And, frankly, those are not the type of people I want standing up with me at that important moment.

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    Omg I feel you. For my wedding one of my bridesmaids literally got her dress three days before xD I just gave up reminding her like as long as you get it before my wedding, fine. Cause eventually it gets tiring reminding them.
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  • Amina
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Thanks girls for all of your support! It really means a lot. I sent one final message about the dress and if they can’t figure it out within the next week or so to order they’ll just have to enjoy the celebration as a guest. Their loss, my gain in sanity lol
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I'm happy you were able to get great advice from PPs! I agree with you - if they don't get the dress, they can just be a guest!

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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated March 2020
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    I saw an ad on Facebook today that Azazie is having a Cyber Monday sale - 15% off! Using the coupon code CYBER19. Maybe if you let them know about the sale they'll jump on it.

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