Bridesmaid dress neckline

My dress and my BM dresses are similar (both have chiffon), but they have their differences. E.g. Neckline is different.

I am not the type to get overly concerned and "picky" about them being complete opposites, although in your case I probably would ask them to use the straps, just so there is a difference.

Nah I think that's a silly rule. Maybe you can ask them not to do a hairstyle similar to yours just to give it some variation. But in all honesty. no one is going to think they look anything like the bride!!

Honestly, I've never heard of that and I really don't think it matters. If she looks good in strapless, who cares! She should get that strapless dress. I'm not sure if we are having a bridal party, but if we are, I plan to just give them colors to choose from and have them all pick out a dress of the same fabric. That way, no one dress is the same, but they're all still the same color scheme (and I wouldn't care about necklines, either).

Overall, I do not think neckline matters.

Thank you @MoweryMe! That's what I was leaning toward. I already had one BM ask if she could leave it strapless but I don't think it's too much to ask for her to use the straps, unless it looks really weird. I originally was all for them to leave them strapless but I started reading too much and started second guessing myself! I feel like it is one of those things that's not really an issue but wanted to see what others say. Overall the dress is super flattering and that's mainly what I was concerned about because I have BMs who vary to extremes in heights and sizes and it seems impossible to get them all to like something!

@Jane and @Mrs.SeippToBe: I agree! Thank you, I feel so much better now! My only "requirement" was the color and I was all for them choosing the style that flattered them most. And yes, my dress is definitely going to stand apart from theirs!

I've never heard of that. It sounds like a silly "rule".

I have never heard of this neckline rule. Where did you learn it?

I can't remember where exactly where I saw it, but it did seem like a dated "rule."

It doesn't matter if the necklines match. No one will confuse the bridesmaid for being the bride.

I have never heard that... when I was MOH for my sister she said that she preferred my dress be the same neckline as hers (sweetheart) to create a cohesion between them. She was in a big white dress and I was in an emerald cocktail dress the attention was totally on her 100% even with the same neckline.

I don't think the neckline is a big deal at all. You will obviously still stand out because you are in a wedding dress.

I picked the color and the store and let my MOH and BM pick the dresses that compliment them all the best.

Overthinking it If you didn't care about this before and your bridesmaids have already started buying the dress, then don't worry about it! Some people might choose different necklines based on personal preference, but it's definitely not a "rule"!

Never heard of the rule, if you like it then go with it. if a guest says OMG CANT BELIEVE YOU HAVE MATCHING NECKLINES, WHAT A FAUX PAS!!! then f them

I actually wanted their dresses to have the same neckline. We will all have v neck dresses.

I don't think this was ever a rule.

Can we see a picture of the BM dress and your dress?

The bridesmaids are there to frame the bride in tasteful dresses. I think straps are nice. I have never heard of a neckline rule. As long as all eyes are on you and not Buffy, Barbie and Bonnie Bridesmaids' mega boobs, you'll be fine.

I am actually hoping for the bridesmaids dresses to have the same neckline. I think it looks better that way. In the end I think whichever way you prefer will be great

Thanks everyone! It has been decided. MOH will be in strapless and the rest are choosing their neckline based on preference. Thank you for the input! I don't think matching to the bride or not matching to the bride matters. It's all personal preference. After reading everyone's responses, it seems like I was overthinking something that is really a non-issue.