Bridesmaid Dress Drama...Cont'd

Well, I thought this was a fair compromise. They weren't crazy about my favorite, I wasn't crazy about one of the BM's favorite. So, solution being to pick a third dress that we both like but don't necessarily love.

I offered these two choices to my BMs last night, and one of them was STILL giving me push back on the options. She is still trying to push for her strapless favorite and add straps. I don't even like the style on her enough to go for that anymore.

I feel like I am being more than fair taking a second trip to David's a few weeks ago and considering more options. Am I being crazy? Is offering them to choose 1 of 2 options I would be happy with a good solution to this whole ordeal? I am tired of stressing and just want to pick a stupid dress already!

You are being more than fair. Give them the options you've settled on and a deadline to make a choice.

If they're paying for their dress, I would let them pick the one that they like. I know it sucks, but big picture: why does her favorite bother you? You don't like the style? In 10 years are you honestly going to look back on your pictures of that friend and say "I don't like that style dress"? It's a tiny detail in a huge huge production.

I think it sounds like you are being more than fair. A lot of times brides pick one dress out without even considering the BM's opinions. Ultimately, it is your wedding, your vision so hopefully they can get on board with your compromise.

I was lucky where I sent all my BM's dresses I liked and they all liked the same one that was on sale on ModCloth, and one of my BM's even had a coupon code for the whole BP. But, I don think that this typically happens haha.

You're being fair but why not just give them certain requirements (length, color, designer) and just let them pick a dress that they like? I did that with my bridesmaids and it was such a lifesaver

I'm one of those awful brides that want a matchy matchy look so I understand why you feel the way you do. I don't know that I would be comfortable with a confrontation over it however. I loved the illusion one! It's too bad she doesn't love it also. It looked so nice on everyone

I've picked fabric type, length and the colors. Other than that, it's open. I think you are being totally fair.

I like a cohesive look which is why I haven't let them have free reign within fabric, length, and color. I like the "matchy matchy" as JK so nicely put it. I like a neat and clean style and the mismatched dresses don't usually look as clean as I prefer. The girls said that they wanted a few days to decide, so I am hoping that by the end of the week when they get back to me, we can decide on something with no confrontation.

When I was a bridesmaid I told my friend I would wear anything she picked out because it is her wedding and she had another bridesmaid that was being so picky so finally the bride gave in and got the one the other bridesmaid wanted, well long story short she ended up not even being in the wedding and we were all stuck wearing these dresses...

Personally I think it should be up to the bride on what she wants her bridesmaids to wear it is her wedding. I am going to look at bridesmaid dresses with my bridesmaids next week and Im hoping we can find something we all like...