Bridesmaid dress doesn't fit

I should add, that by mismatched it was 2 girls in the same, then the other 2 in the same. Now it will be 2, 1, 1. And she's already gone back and forth to the seamstress with no luck.

Why is she just now dealing with this the week of? Anyway yes you did the right thing. If she is your bridesmaid that obviously means she is an important person in your life therefore If it were me I would still want her up there even if her dress was a little mismatched.

You did the right thing. As most people on this forum will tell you, pre-wedding events are optional and nobody will be as excited about your wedding as you are. I am not sure why it matters what dress she ends up wearing since your BMs are mismatched anyway. Let this go. At this point, the BM dress issue is the least of your worries.

I feel your frustration but I think you're making the right call.

My MOH avoided me even when I reached out about non-wedding things, just wanted to see how she was doing and catch up. She didn't order her dress and 2 weeks before the wedding I had to take her to the salon and hope they had a sample dress in the right color that fit her. We lucked out, but I was so tempted to just say "fuck it, you just have to be a guest then." For the sake of the relationship, I didn't. But I absolutely understand why you feel that way.

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I am only commenting what I would do. If you already have it set up four people on each side then let her stay, but you don't have to walk on eggshells for anyone. Just tell her straight, I asked you to be apart of something important to me so if you aren't willing to come to the events and support me like a bridesmaid should then I need to find someone who really wants to be there for me.

Thank you all! I feel much better about this now. I think I was second guessing because other people I asked said I should have told her just to be a guest. But they aren't in my situation so that is easy to say when you're not in it. This friendship is rocky as it is, but I think she legitimately wants to be there and be part of it but had some personal stuff going on so I never called her out on it. I totally understand all prior the events are optional. I was trying to put myself in her shoes and do what I would have wanted if I were in her situation. I think it will all be fine. Yes it's annoying and unfortunate but it will be fine. Thank you so much everyone!

I'd let her wear the other dress. A few things are going to happen. Let it go,enjoy your wedding!

You did the right thing and hopefully she will make up for it by making up for being mia and put everything in to being there on the big day