Bridesmaid dress debacle

I would find another dress in your color for her to wear. She shouldn't be kicked out of your wedding because she didn't order her dress a year in advance. She also shouldn't be responsible for extensive alterations because you had them purchase dresses so early. Maybe she could try Poshmark or other secondhand websites for the dress in your color.

The good news with your rescheduled date is that you and she have plenty of time to find something that will work. I bet you can find something available either at DB or elsewhere that will be virtually the same color in a similar style. There are countless dresses out there and many styles and colors will look basically the same to the casual observer.

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Thank you for your response and perspective! I would not "kick her out", but let her know I recognize two weddings may be a lot going on for her as she can easily be overwhelmed. I also provided information for girls to order 6 months out (with 4 months processing and shipping from Davids - not in my control). We were originally getting married in July and due to COVID have had to postpone until January. I am on the constant lookout for similar dresses on both David's and other websites. I will add this info to the original post

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Agreed the extra time is helpful! Thank you for your response and perspective!

I'm so sorry this is happening. I had a kind of similar situation. My sister aka my maid of honor decided 1 week (yes, 7 days) before my wedding that she hated her dress even though she was with me when I selected the dress. I wanted everyone all in the same dress so I wasn't happy when my sister said that she would wear the dress, but wouldn't agree to be in any photos or if I wanted her to be in the photos then I needed to select a different dress for her to wear. I ended up finding a different style in the same color and her size at a David's near me. I had it shipped overnight to her and our seamstress altered it the night she went in for alterations. I got really lucky to have all of it worked. This being said you have plenty of time to figure out a solution. I would recommend looking on Poshmark or eBay to see if someone happens to have the dress for sale in the right color and size. I have also seen David's Bridal dresses on Amazon before so you could check there as well. I wouldn't recommend having her take the maid of honor's dress because you said it would need extensive alterations would be very expensive and it might not look good once altered.

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My goodness, I'm glad everything worked out for you! I have found a few websites that have used bridesmaids dresses and a website that will make it (not sure how legit it is, still need to do research) for a reasonable price. I plan to keep an eye on the preowned wedding dress sites to hopefully see the dress come up. Thanks for your response and sharing your situation!

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I think this is put pretty perfect. If you are willing to "give her an out" are you really her friend?

Can you hop on poshmark and see if you can find a dress in the color? I've seen a ton of db bridesmaid dresses on there. It would be worth a shot!

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I've been keeping an eye out on several websites including poshmark since posting. I'm feeling more optimistic about finding something pretty similar in style. Color is still a little worry because of course our color is an unique one (Cassis) and every company has a different idea of what that color looks like. I'm keeping the faith now that we have some extra time! Thanks for your response and suggestion!

I don’t think you should kick her out. It’d be embarrassing to look back on that moment as a bridezilla moment or to lose a friend. I think you should really just let her buy a different dress in the same color. She shouldn’t be responsible for extensive alterations either. Decide what’s most important to you tho

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response! I agree that I would never kick her out of the wedding over a dress and I guess that didn’t come across clear in my original post, more or less her being noncommittal presented the opportunity for her to share if being in the wedding was too much for her (still don’t think I’m portraying this right, haha). The dress color is unique so a similar dress has been hard to spot online. David’s seems to be really narrowing down their Vera Wang collection online unfortunately. I did just order a swatch from Azazie to compare colors and am hoping it’s a match to select a similar dress from that website!