Bridesmaid dress budget

That's tough. I would try and be accomidating but in the end I would push for the dress I want but idk because the dress I wanted was only $100 and I feel like thats very reasonable. I would never expect someone to spend over $200 on one.

$100 is very reasonable! My budget is more than that but the dresses my friend was looking at was like $200-$275 and that makes me super nervous

Speak up! Tell her what you can afford. If she chooses a certain dress over having you in the wedding, you know where you stand.

It’s a tough decision to make, but at the end of the day it’s your wedding! Once in a lifetime time experience. I think this day revolves around you. If you can find a dress that’s resonable, why not. In my opinion, if the dress is more that $150 I thinks that’s too much since they’re only going to wear it once.

I'd say that if she values a particular dress over having you in the wedding then maybe she's not someone you want to shell out for anyways?

I let my bridesmaids know that if the dress was over what their budget I would help pay for the dress. So like if their budget was $100 and the dress was $150 I’d gladly pay the extra $50. But in the end the dresses were all within everyone’s budget

What their budget is* ugh I wish there was a way to edit lol

I think it is most thoughtful to ask what each girl's budget is (individually, not in front of the other girls), and set a limit somewhere in the middle. Then the bride subsidizes anyone if the dresses are over-budget. Honestly, with the budgets some brides have to work with, I think it would be nicest if they just paid for the bridesmaid dresses in the first place.

My bridesmaids are purchasing their own dresses but I’m trying to accommodate everyone with a reasonable price because i don’t want to be stressed out worrying about the price of the dress but yes i agree with @xRApril if it’s not too much I’ll help pitch in since i only have 4 standing along side me and first priority is that we all have to live after weddings lol

I would help pay for the dress, I may offer to pay for my neice's Jr bridesmaid dress so my sister doesn't have to buy 2 dresses. I mentioned to my FMIL that I was I asking FSIL to be a bridesmaid but that she may say no since there were costs involved, she said that's what she has me for, so I passed this information along to FSIL.

You need to be respectful of everyone’s budget when asking people to buy things for your wedding. With that being said I think that it is also respectful to decline being in the wedding party if it’s going to be too much of a financial strain. Both sides need to be realistic and reasonable. If a bridesmaid can only spend $40 on a dress then she should think about not being in the wedding. There should be an open and honest PRIVATE conversation with the bride. My best friend (since we were 6) had concerns about paying for everything associated with being in the wedding and we were able to stay within her budget but I also offered to subsidize whatever she needed. It is more important to have her with me than to worry about $50.

Every bride should be considerate of her bridesmaids budgets. My sister is my MOH and I knew she couldn't afford much so we looked for dresses around $100. I wouldn't eve consider a dress too much more than that. If a bride picks a dress out of budget for anyone knowingly she should pay for the dress. Or allow the bridesmaid to buy a similar dress in the price range you can afford. This is not an instance of "it's your day, do what you want".

Be honest and upfront, let her know how much you can afford. And think about the big picture: being a bridesmaid is way more expensive than the dress alone. All the extra events (which you’re not required to throw but if all other BM are invested you might end up having to contribuinte or you’ll be in an awkward spot) also add up quick! If she doesn’t think she can work with your budget she might offer to help you or ask you to come as a guest, which I think is totally fine, doesn’t mean she likes you more or less, just that she’s not willing to compromise her vision. I recently got off a wedding party because the bride really wanted a specific dress style, I will however be on TTC mode right after my wedding and I plan to be slightly big by the time her wedding date rolls around so that wouldn’t work for me, she didn’t want to compromise and I’m not changing my plans so we agreed it was best to get off and just attend as a guest. No hard feelings are needed, we’re all adults here.

If I really had my heart set on a dress that was outside of someone's budget, they could pay what they could afford of it and I would cover the rest. I definitely wouldn't kick them out

I'd set a budget that everyone is comfortable with and try to stick to that. If I as a bride fell in love with a dress that was over the budget, I'd pay the difference.

I would find it very unreasonable to kick someone out of a wedding because they couldn't afford the specific dress that I wanted. If your friend values the dress over you standing in her wedding, I think that says a lot honestly.

If I were the bride I'd either choose a new dress or just pay the difference, because the dress shouldn't matter more than a friendship. Hopefully your friend knows this and it won't be a problem.

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Big budget doesn't always mean lots of extra money left over. The bride and groom are already responsible for so many other things for the guests, you don't need to add bridesmaid dresses to the tab just because they're already spending a lot of money.

The bride should be consulting everyone privately first about what they're comfortable spending. I'm being specific about a certain color and length of the dress, but other than that, they're picking out what they want together. If for some reason, the dress is way out of budget, I'll help someone pay for it.

I don't think a dress should be more important than a friendship. Let her know ahead of time what your budget is and I guess if that keeps you from her wedding, you know how important you actually are to her.

I personally would respect the budget. If you are kicked out of the party because of a budget then that’s on them (I pray the bride would never do that, it’s extremely rude and mean!).
I believe courtesy is if she requires you to wear a certain dress, then she needs to either pay for it or pay the difference of what you can’t.

I just had this problem. My moh could only spend 150 and i chose a dress that was 190. I really liked the dress so i told her i would help her financially.