I've never sent anything on a group discussion before but I am desperate. I have a best friend (Mia) we have been inseparable for the past 5 years. However, my fiance, mom, sister, other friends (basically everyone) doesn't like her. The reason for not liking her is she has let me down a number of times with not showing up to events etc, amongst other reasons. Anyway my fiance is having 3 groomsman (his 3 brothers) and I was originally going to have 4 bridesmaids (Mia, my sister, my sister-in -law and my fiance's cousin). Mia likes my sister but doesn't like the other 2 because my relationship with them has been complicated in the past (saying that I am really close to both of them now). So, I won a dress fitting with a designer on Instagram and asked Mia to join me but she ending up cancelling literally the day before so I took the other two (my sister lives far away). One of them then messaged Mia saying that I was really upset with her and she should apologise. So followed 4 weeks of drama and fighting amongst everyone because who is this one to tell Mia how to treat me cause she is my best friend! After all of the drama Mia turned around and said she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid and if I ask her she will say no. Side note she cancelled for lunch and another dress fitting saying it was going to upset Her to much.
So I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid (cause she lietrally told me not to) but asked the others. I still had made her a pretty box with a few gifts in so I gave it to her and said I'd still love her to be there and get dressed with me and help plan things and I want her to wear a pretty dress and we can go shopping for it together. Then she said she won't come to get ready cause she isn't a bridesmaid but that she actually does want to be a bridesmaid now and if I can make her one she will be there.
But after all this I don't know if I even want her there anymore! You can't just chop and change your mind, and she shouldn't get to just decide cause it's not about her. I really want her there on the day though. It's very confusing and I think I'm going to end up loosing my best friend!