Bridesmaid Drama

I completely agree with this. I get married a week before you, July 11, and I just told my bridesmaids last week about what to look for in their dresses. She has 6 months to get a dress and I can absolutely understand her not wanting to purchase a dress until she's closer to the size she'll be by the wedding for alteration purposes. If she doesn't have a dress by the day of the wedding, she'll just sit with the rest of the guests in the crowd.

If I were you, I would talk with her and have her agree that if her dress doesn't arrive in time for the wedding, that she will not be in it. This way you don't have to worry about the whole situation and she knows it's nothing personal if she isn't in the wedding because she decided to wait until now to have this major surgery. Just food for thought.

Please give her some leeway. You may not know why she waited to have surgery or why she didn’t do it after your wedding. I understand wanting them all to be ordered at same time. It are they all exactly the same? She will not even be able to guess her size. My guess is she’s willing to pay the expedite or rush fee if she’s wanting to wait to order. And grandma is probably a batter seamstress than anyone else. Why would you care where it’s altered? Please give her a break

Where did you get your bridesmaid dresses from? This is not true for the vast majority of bridesmaid dresses.

Honestly it is frustrating but there isnt much you can do. I would just say that if her dress isnt able to come in time she will need to attend as a guest instead of standing with you. My fingers are crossed for you both!

So I can definitely understand what feelings you're going through right now! A lot of people on here, though, have really reinforced the fact that our girls are adults. They are capable of doing adult things. So you just have to trust they will get everything done on time or else they will be seated as a guest.

I have one of my bridesmaids who is battling Lyme right now. She went undiagnosed for about 3 years and is really having a tough time bouncing back between all the medications she's on, doctor visits, etc. She has limited mobility so now the big concern is when she will get alterations and if she can even walk/stand at the wedding.

I came into the conversation with her health and wanting to do what's best for HER as the focal point. She was so appreciative that I wanted to help her and genuinely make her comfortable. She just never wanted to bring it up because she always feels like it'll ruin my vision of our wedding. I told her that's crazy. The perfect vision of my wedding just includes everyone BEING there. Doesn't matter if you stand, sit, lay down.

In the end, I think you just have to trust your friend that she's going to do everything in her power to get the dress on time and get alterations done on time!

I think the big key factor here is where are you ordering the dresses? Mine got theirs at David's Bridal and they came in 2-4 weeks later. I had the same experience with them (2X) and then used Brideside as well, and that took about 6 weeks.

I kind of agree with the others; while I do understand your concern, your friend just had life-altering and I can only imagine painful surgery. I know your wedding is about you and your SO, but this is her life, not yours, and she's allowed to do what she wants. It reminds me of the person I knew who told her bridesmaids they couldn't get pregnant before her wedding. I get your perspective, but it's coming off a little childish to me.

If it would be an option, all of my bridesmaids got theirs from David's Bridal and one got hers 3 days later (she lives 50 miles from their main distribution center), two got theirs in a week and a half, and the other two ordered online and got theirs 3 weeks later. David's has an extremely quick turnaround time. They will tell you it can take 3-5 months, but they 100% do not take that long. They also have more fabrics and colors now too, and have a bigger range of sizes. I highly recommend them for this bridesmaid.