I am getting married on Nov 17. I had asked four of my girlfriends and my fiance's two sisters to be bridesmaids.
Long story short, there's drama with the four girlfriends that I asked. One of the girls (we'll call her Ashley) was dating a guy for 5+ years and they broke up last year (I should mention that they broke up because she was cheating on him).. Now, one of the other bridesmaids (Carol) is dating Ashley's ex-boyfriend.
Ashley found out on social media and now is mad at me, and all of the other girls for not telling her that they were dating. She basically ended a life-long friendship with one of the other girls because she felt so betrayed that no one told her they were dating.
I know, sounds like a soap opera. I am a very drama free person and hate confrontation so this is very unsettling to me.
Now, Ashley has stepped down from being a bridesmaid as she will be uncomfortable being in Carol's presence.
This really hurt my feelings and makes me sad that Ashley couldn't put what was happening with her and Carol aside to be there for me on the biggest day of my life.
Ashley also told me that she prefers to be a wedding guest and not a bridesmaid so that if she's feeling uncomfortable, she can leave early. As a bride, it hurts to hear that.
I put so so much effort into who to ask, how to ask, dresses, gifts, etc, that how I feel like, why did I bother?
I am considering asking Ashley to just not come. Is that petty/mean of me? I am working so hard to make this day perfect for my fiance and I. I just think that seeing her there as a guest will make me sad and I don't want anything to bring me down on our day.
Please let me know your input! Thank you so much in advance for your help!!!