Bridesmaid don’t want to participate

I realize I have a ton of typos. I’m typing at a mile per minute 😩

You don't do anything. She isn't required to participate in any activities. I would however have a conversation with her the next time I'm out that it bums me out that this argument is getting in the way of her being a part of these fun times. Not intended to make her feel guilty but as a way of expressing my feelings to a good friend.

I wouldn't get involved, they are adults and should be able to tolerate one another without you mediating. If your BM decides not to attend, let her throw her tantrum. She may be bluffing in the hopes that you'll intervene, so don't!!

Tell me "HBIC" doesn't mean "head bridesmaid in charge" 🙄

You do nothing. Stay out of it. Let them figure it out. The biggest problem is a grown woman throwing a hissy fit; she needs a talk. I wouldn't have someone around me on my wedding day known to throw hissy fits.

What IS HBIC? I'm with Daniella.

View Quoted Comment Head *word you can’t say on WW that rhymes with itch* in charge

In all of the weddings I have stood up in, the bridal party worked together to plan the shower and bachelorette party. They need to be adults and be cordial, not put any stress on you to celebrate your upcoming nuptials. I would tell them I wouldn't want either if they continue to cause drama. Also, cake is not really someone else's job except yours and FS to figure out. Can you include them both in the tasting?

View Quoted Comment I’ve done this as well. I was hoping that I would receive the same respect... when I say cake I mean cake for the bachelorette party. This is all about the bachelorette party. My mom is handeling the bridal shower

View Quoted Comment I have explained how it hurts my feelings. But she’s more concerned with how she feels

View Quoted Comment No head B in charge. Which basically means she wants to control everything

View Quoted Comment Thanks for explaining lol

It's inconsiderate of both of them to suck you into their drama. But, as the saying goes, you teach people how to treat you. I would tell both of them to stop involving you and that they need to put their differences behind them for this temporary event. Then don't respond to either of them if they keep coming to you about it.

...you do nothing if she doesn’t want to participate that’s in on her. But it shows you who has your best interests in mind. You may have to talk to best friend and say “you and MOH either need to work together or you need to cool it because you’re causing problems in my bridal party and it’s my day”

View Quoted Comment Sounds very frustrating

I have this same problem. Two of my bridesmaids don’t want to be involved at all. I wish i didn’t ask them because i wanted this to be an enjoyable time with them but obviously if it doesn’t benefit them they are out.

This sucks and I’m sorry u have to go through this. They are grown adults and should work together. Sit both of them down and tell them how u feel.

No one has to do anything. If they don't want to throw you a party, for whatever reason, they don't have to.

View Quoted Comment I thought head bi*** 😂😂

I was in a wedding with a 9-woman bridal party. The MOH decided she was going to dictate what we all *should* do—like sent a condescending email to me and the other ‘maids with a bill for what she thought the bridal shower should be from all of us, including gift. I didn’t participate and told my friend I had a disagreement but I didn’t want her to worry about it. I took her to a spa day. Point being, I didn’t want drama, and I’m a grown woman who isn’t going to be told what to do.

Amd the thing is—it’s not really about cake. She may feel like she doesn’t have any say over what she’s being told to do, or maybe she’s jealous of your sister or you or whatever. Just move along and enjoy your wedding.