Bridesmaid doesn't seem to want to be a bridesmaid? Wedding in 2 weeks...should I address this or let it go?

If your wedding is only two weeks away, I'd let it go. She's probably a bit jealous that you're getting married and she still has all the planning to go through. She's excited for the big moments in her life. If she's a real friend, she'll show up, smile and be happy for you on your day. I'd just make sure to spend some time talking about her wedding, too. One of my BM got engaged in April, and it's fun to talk wedding stuff with her, just remember to be happy and excited for her as well.

Yes. Talk to her about it as friends. It seems like she's looking for an out. Give it to her. You don't want it to be a chore nor do you want your friendship to suffer because of it.

I would definitely talk to her about it as a friend. You never know what it can be so I would approach her about it but in a friendly way and see what the deal is. Honestly I would be hurt too.

I am going to say she is probably jealous that you are "stealing her thunder" or that she cannot have her "happy moment" because she is helping you.

When one of my cousins got married, one of her BM's got engaged about a month before my cousin's wedding. That BM did an abrupt about face, made herself unavailable for everything, then showed her ass at my cousins bridal shower and pouted about having to be there bla, bla, bla.

She made my cousin cry at her shower and I stopped and cornered the BM (who I did not know at all) in the kitchen and confronted her about her attitude (she started an argument the second she walked in the door (late) and was making all the guests uncomfortable). I basically said "what is your problem, lady?!" This BM broke down in a crying heap that she was disappointed that her FH proposed to her when he did because he should have taken into consideration that no one would be happy for her since her good friend was getting married in a month. Okay, I understood her feelings, but that was no reason to take it out on her friend, the BRIDE. At the same time, she was right. No one really cared about her engagement because everyone was so wrapped up in planning my cousin's wedding. In the end, the girl did not stand in my cousin's wedding and their friendship basically ended at that shower. I am going to say if you give this girl an "out" it might end the friendship.

If you were getting married in eleven months, this would be something to address. However, because you're getting married in eleven days, I would leave it alone. Unless you are seriously doubtful that she will show up on time and in the proper attire, I think a confrontation will just lead to drama you don't need this close to your wedding day. Unless there is some unresolved underlying issue between you that really needs to be aired to be solved, there isn't much you can say that will lead her to embrace a super involved, positive attitude.

If she's being this bitchy now, I can only imagine what it'd be like the day of. I wouldn't want the negativity around me on my wedding day.

I would let it go personally the wedding is almost here..... I just wouldn't be so involved with hers lol

If it is stressing you out, talk to her about it. As someone who recently had two bridesmaids quit (before I could ask them to step down), I was incredibly relieved with that little dark cloud vanished. Try to come to some sort of understanding and don't let this dampen your parade!

If I were in your shoes, I think I would just let it go. Talking to her may help or it could make her angry and backfire. Have your MOH and a close friend keep her in check during the wedding. Then after the wedding, pay her the same respect she paid you.

I was a BM for my SIL a few months before my wedding. Sure, I would have rather been focusing my attention and money on my wedding, but I put on my big girl panties, sucked it up, and was a smiling BM for her. Your friend (if she is a good friend) should do the same for you.

Just let it go...she may have issues she is dealing with and doesn't want to bother you at this time and THINKS she is hiding what ever is on her mind. As stated above, you have 11 days to go before the wedding, but wait it out until after the wedding.

Since it's so soon, I would say let it go. Unless she straight up says to you she doesn't want to be in the wedding, I think you just have to let it happen. It isn't going to hurt you anymore necessarily. You could talk talk to her though, see what's really going on. Obviously she is having some feelings.....

With the wedding being so close I would just let it go.

No one is required to care about your wedding as much as you and your FI. No one is required to help plan anything either, so the "little" she did, was still more than she had to. I would let it go.

I think you should talk to her about it. Tell her you noticed these things and want to know whats up. Yeah it's only 11 days till your wedding but you're going to look back on your wedding pictures forever and I wouldn't want to look back on someone who has been down right mean to me the month up to my wedding. Maybe she is holding something in she isn't telling you and you can clear it up?

I'm having same issues. of course, it doesn't help that I am now dealing with girls who are doing so much for me and I didn't even ask them to be part of the wedding. I sort of regretting some of my choices and wish I carefully thought everything through.

just had my bachelorette party this weekend and was just told that I was going to lose my job. she started complaining about money and started demanding certain things. I didn't really have fun. I spent most of the time playing referee..

I would let it go... if anything I would have a conversation about how happy you are to help her and let her have 'her time to shine' after your wedding is over. Every bride-to-be goes through so much emotionally (including her) and it also causes alot of stress to be a bridesmaid, which she is both right now. Just let her know she'll have her time too in a non-condescending way for now.

I knew a few of my bridesmaids were going through some (I'm not a good conversationalist when I'm stressed anyways). The first thing that I did when I woke up after our wedding night was to check in with them and start asking them how they were doing and let then know I was there to help and care.