Bridesmaid Ditch????

Tell her she needs to order the dress ASAP. If it's a monetary issue you will purchase the dress for her and request her size. You need to get on this with your wedding in June. Some dresses take months to come in and then they need to be altered.

Maybe ask if there's something else going on with her? It's odd for someone to just be that lazy, though there are those people out there.

Give her a deadline. Ask her what days she is available to go with you, make an appointment based on her availability, tell the store she has to pick one. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you have to do what you have to do! I feel the pain girl!

I am not planning on ditching her. I am wondering if she is ditching me. A budget wasn't discussed prior to her accepting being a bridesmaid. I have tried to work with her in finding a similar dress in the right color at a fraction of the original dress picked. I am not sure how to proceed as I have given her a deadline and she has passed that.

I would give her the option to opt out and let her know you won't be offended if she can't fit it into her budget. For some people it can be too much and they can't find a way to tell the bride because they don't want to hurt her feelings. If she does opt out and you have more GM than BM have one girl walk with a GM on each arm. I went through this with my little sister so I am speaking from my personal experience. It was a hard discussion but once we talked I felt much better. She did not opt out and I ended up offering to pay for her dress.

Are you able to go shopping with her? Or help her out with the costs of the dress? If she can't afford any of the dresses that you have shown her she might be embarrassed to tell you so.

Talk to her about it, and when you do remember that she is your FRIEND first, bridesmaid second.

My SIL had a BM who she was worried would not be able to afford things, so she told her friend that she would like to buy her BM shoes I think as her bday gift that year, and they went and picked out the shoes together. SIL told me privately, but didn't even mention it to the other girls. If money is an issue, but you REALLY want her, maybe something like that could be possible? Then narrow down when you will go to look, set a date for it, and go!

Maybe talk to her about it and see if something else is going on with her. If it is a matter of her not being able to afford being a bridesmaid and if you are unable to buy it for her, maybe offer for her to attend your wedding as a guest? She might be embarrassed about her financial situation.

This is why having people buy a dress that you pick out, for your wedding, is poor form, even if it's becoming the norm. She shouldn't have to spend money for the "honor" of standing next to you at your party.