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Bailey
Just Said Yes October 2019

Bridesmaid dilemma...

Bailey, on August 6, 2019 at 7:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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So, I just found out that one of my bridesmaids is not going to be able to make it to my wedding (she'll be 8 months pregnant and was just told that she's not allowee to fly). It wasn't a total surprise to hear this, but totally sucks!

Anyway, I know who I am going to ask to be my bridesmaid but am not sure how to ask her without it coming off like she wasn't good enough to be a first choice bridesmaid but I want her as a replacement. Any advice would be so incredibly appreciated! Thank you!

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Latest activity by Julie, on August 9, 2019 at 9:07 AM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I wouldn’t ask someone two months out because I don’t think there’s a way where it wouldn’t come off as being the second choice. It’s totally fine to have uneven sides.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I wouldn’t ask anyone at this point. Your wedding is only two months away. There’s nothing you could say that would make it feel like she’s a second choice because she is a second choice.
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  • Bailey
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Bailey ·
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    Thank you! My wedding date being so close is definitely something else I worry about... Do you have any suggestions for the bridal party entering/exiting with an uneven number? (We will have 2 maid of honors, 1 bridesmaid, 1 best man, and 3 groomsmen) Not that they will look any different, or really be noted as being a Maid of Honor instead of a Bridesmaid or a Best man instead of a groomsman, so it won't even really be known to anyone besides the bridal party.

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  • H
    Devoted November 2019
    Heather ·
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    We had the same thing happen with one of our groomsman. We are just going to have the best man stay at the alter with him and bridesmaids (2) will walk alone.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    Don’t do replacements. Just have un Even numbers.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    That is what we are doing with grooms women. He has two grooms women no guys.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    At this point, there's really no way to ask and make it sound like she wasn't first choice. I'd leave the situation alone and not add another BM!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I 100% wouldn't ask her and would just have uneven parties. I would be pretty offended to be asked to be a BM in August for an October wedding.

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  • Cristina
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    My cousin had 2 maids of honor along with a very large bp, but the best man walked both maids of honor down the aisle. One on each arm.
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    Dedicated October 2021
    Millicent ·
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    I think you're just better off having one less bridesmaid, you're only two months out and its a bit late to be asking around.

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  • Julie
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    Julie ·
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    We have uneven! Instead of having groomsman walk down with bridesmaids, they will already be standing up there with FH!

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