Bridesmaid dilemma (and sister problems)

Sounds like they won't be mature about this. Maybe have 2 MOHs?

I would first announce your engagement and then ask your BP about 8 months out from your wedding. Ask whoever you want to be your MOH and BM. However, I imagine if you ask one sister to be the MOH, the other would be incredibly hurt if she wasn't even in the BP.

Can I just say my 17 yo brother is the SAME WAY!!! Omg so freakin critical!! I think you should wait until early next year to ask. If it means a lot to have her in it, then I'd ask. I know I wouldn't want to exclude my brother bc of this phase.

Just wait it out. You have some time to think about it before you ask.

Take it from someone who did this... I had one of my three sisters be my MOH and didn't ask the other two because I didn't want them burdened with the tasks of getting their kids ready on top of themselves. I HIGHLY regret my decision to this day but there's not much I can do now the damage is done- I apologized and realized where I made my mistake. But what I am saying is even if your little sister is being a brat sometimes she is always going to remember the fact that you included the other sister and not her. Either have both of them or none of them.

You could always include her in the party as a bridesmaid without much actual involvement from her. If she's rude and critical, don't solicit her opinions or feedback along the way.

I would not ask yet. You have over a year. I would just wait until you have to ask people.

If this was me, I would ask both to be in the wedding. Your relationship with the younger sister may change. Teenagers can suck. But she will always remember that you left her out.

This is tricky, but I had a similar dilemma. I am 28 and my sister is 19 (turning 20 in October). Before I was engaged (when she was younger, probably around 16/17) she would make comments about how she was going to be my MOH etc. She was very bratty, hormonal, would start fights with me for no reason etc.) I also always envisioned her as my MOH because as weird as it is we were always close regardless of the age gap. I straight up told her that when I do get married that it is my wedding and I will make the decision. She also was so bratty that when I told her that I would probably ask my best friend to be the Matron of Honor she said that she didn't want to share the title and she wouldn't be the Maid of Honor then.

Fast forward to now! - She is WAYYYY better - still has her moments but no where how she was at 16/17 years old. I did ask her to be my Maid of Honor and did ask my Best friend to be Matron of Honor and she is fine with that, it is no longer her way as she understands it is my wedding. She actually cried hysterically when I found my wedding dress which made me feel extremely loved. I would chalk up your sisters behavior unfortunately to that age. I remember being a teen and I wouldn't want to be that age ever again! too many hormones lol and you don't even know yourself at that age. I would wait a little bit to see if her behavior gets any better. Luckily for me, my sister did. I also think you need to think would you regret not having her as a BM (if her behavior doesn't change), because hopefully she does outgrow it even if it isn't in time for your wedding and then you would look back thinking maybe I should have had her as a BM.

Definitely wait it out you have plenty of time for her to grow up don't rush picking a bridal party

I have 3 sisters and one went through a rather long phase of attitude/rebellion. She was also the sister that had the most genuinely happy/excited reaction about me asking her to be a bridesmaid. However to avoid favoritism I asked my best gal friend to be my MOH.

I have 2 sisters as well. Im closer to my younger sister who is 16 ( will be 17 when I get married) and my other sister is 30. Im having them both be BMs but no MOH because I dont want either of them to be hurt.

If it would make you upset not to have them, ask them to be in it. She may become more adult in the next year.

My sister is the same way. She's 18 and acts like it. We don't get along very well. It's been a little better since we went away to college. Anyway she's my only sister and I really want her to be my MOH I also don't have ANY friends that are girls which made making my bridal party difficult. My sister is my MOH but she also young and doesn't really want to do all the things MOHs do. My mom is going to be helping her with a lot of it. Anyway, I'd say ask her. You don't want to be 10 years down the line and be in a better relationship and regret not having her in the wedding party

I would wait

But it will probably cause more drama for you if you don't ask your younger sister to be in the BP and have your other sister in it.

She's a teenager. Invite her to be in your BP. I was a straight C u N(ext) T(uesday) at 17. She'll grow up eventually but I think you'll regret not having her be a part of your day.

She could be your entire bridal party. I think that'd be ok!