I’ve never even heard of this. Outside of getting dress, what would even be included in this “contract”? This wouldn’t fly in my group of friends as bridesmaids aren’t employees, so I’d just expect this not to go over well.
You are allowed to feel frustrated, but I think the contract thing will just make the situation worse. Would I contract really make your friends more responsive? No they would likely feel it is just too much, and that you are too controlling. Just have a heart to heart with your friends and make sure your expectations are reasonable. Good luck
Unless you plan on making this a fun thing more like a timeline or dates/times to remember, like including bridesmaid dress details, rehearsal & rehearsal dinner information, wedding day information, etc. I think it’s absolutely wrong. They are not hired contractors or help. If I were to receive a contract as a bridesmaid, I would back out immediately.
Yeah thats too controlling, I'd back out if a bride made me sign a contract as a bridesmaid.
A contract implies a job, and therefore payment. Unless you plan on compensating your bridesmaids for doing specific tasks for you, I don’t think a contract is the way to go. Really, all your bridesmaids need to do is show up at the time designated on your wedding day, wearing particular attire, and support you on your big day. It is simply a title of honor (not a job) and they are not obligated to do anything further.
It's just a thought ...But I have met several brides that have done a contract before ...but I think I would let them go than do that ...I can't stress myself any more over some females. Replace and move on.
Getting frustrated is totally normal! You're trying to rally a bunch of girls together while trying to bring a wedding vision to life - that can be really tough! I feel your frustration whole heartedly. But if a bride handed me a contract I needed to sign in order to be in her wedding, I would honestly laugh and think she was kidding. And then likely remove myself from the wedding anyway.
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I completely agree with Yasmine! Your bridesmaids are supposed to be your closest friends, and it shouldn't require a contract. I'm sorry that you feel frustrated! Wedding planning definitely has that effect at times. I would avoid giving a contract to your bridesmaids. Send important dates/info to your wedding party in writing (text message, email, Facebook group, etc), so that they can refer to that if they forget something. Otherwise, keep planning with your fiance and keep your wedding party in the loop about the things that directly involve them.
If they aren’t being helpful and listening then you’re better off not having any bridesmaids. I only had two, my sister and my good friend and that’s because I knew they are both relax and chill and knew it was my wedding. In my opinion the more bridesmaid the more headache. I’ve been in wedding parties of 6 and 7 and it just gets too much. Some bridesmaid start focusing more on themselves than the actual bride. Skip the contract and possibly bridesmaid, might save you the headache and money.
What kinds of things are they not doing, that are making you crazy? It is only just approaching time to order dresses for November. Showers and bach are voluntary, and very little is done til a couple months before. Problems?
I’ve read about these on Reddit. But never come across one in real life. Basically it’s a list of over the top excuses to allow someone to get away with bridezilla behavior and demands that no one should be asked, and if the bridesmaid doesn’t agree then she not only needs to step down as bridesmaid but also gets canceled from the bride’s life as well.
Do not do this under any circumstances on either end.