Bridesmaid Challenge?!

I asked my sister to be MOH and that was it. I wanted a small wedding party and the easiest way to do it was to only have the one. DH had more groomsmen and I was ok with that.

My daughters were flower girls.

There are a million benefits to having a small wedding party, and none to having a large one, IMO

You could give the other girls different jobs in the wedding. They could do readings, ushers, personal attendants. There are plenty of other "positions" needed other than bridesmaid for the special girls you want included.

My decision was based on asking the girls who had at one point been my best friend. Luckily, I'm still close with all and that only equaled 4. One of them, we have always said we would be each others MOHs due to 1) we've been friends longer than anyone else in our respective lives and 2) neither of us have blood sisters. No one can argue or have hurt feelings over that! I think k 10 is just soooo many....but I think 8 is too. To each their own, of course, but I would honor them in other ways

Thank you, ladies! I keep going up and down my list thinking of who I could mark off and I just don't know. It's so hard. Although I know 8 is so many, without those particular 8 I wouldn't feel right. I definitely think honoring my other close girlfriends is a great idea... as well as keeping them very involved in the wedding process.

I chose people who I felt been there for me throughout the ups and downs in my life. Who've supported me and take time out of their busy lives to check on me. I know a lot of people, but it seems like with most people life happens and we lose touch (which is fine).

FH wanted 3 people in his wedding party, so I chose 3 ppl as well. For me it was hard bc I don't consider myself to be close with a lot of people. I also took into account who would be able to willing to pay for their dress without an issue.

Think about it, the more ppl in your bridal party the more different schedules you'll have to accommodate etc. The 3 ppl in my bridal party, it's hard to schedule stuff bc they all have different work schedules and they're not always off on the weekend and the weekend is the only time I'm off.

I was the bridesmaid left out before and I 100% understood. The bride actually included me by asking me to sign the marriage license and I was still invited to the rehearsal dinner and to come a bit early to take pictures with her. My feelings weren't hurt and she was still in my wedding.

I don't feel you ever need to give a reason. It is personal and anyone who demands an explaination doesn't deserve one.

Me? I went with my sister, my FH's sister (because family over friends) and then my best friend growing up. While I have other close friends who I would have liked to invite, I feel the wedding party should be for family and those friends who have been there for a long time through many things.

Any friend of mine who complaints about not being a bridesmaid is just immature.... like who does that!? ughhhh-- I decided to have only 4 people because like you--I just dont like the thought of having a large bridal party -I have many good friends that would've made awesome bridesmaids--i dont expect them to complaint or 'feel crushed' we are all grown women, they will get an invitation to the wedding and to my bachellorette get-away trip; this is how i plan to make em feel special. ---maybe something similar...?

^^^im with Attentea 100%

Honestly I've been that girl that wasn't asked to be in the bridal party. I was still invited to all of the fun stuff like the shower and the b-lette party. I even helped her to get ready the day of and took photos. I actually loved not being a BM because that meant I didn't have to spend $$ on the dress or help the other BMs out with the shower.

My friend did tell me that she desperately wanted to ask me to be a BM but she was limited with the number. It was nice to hear but again, I didn't mind at all. So feel free to tell your friends that and if they are still upset then they really should just get over it.

I have the exact opposite problem. I live in a small town in Texas and have only been here 3 years. I know some ladies here but none that I would consider to be close enough to ask to be a bridesmaid. My best friend lives in northern Minnesota and can't make it down here to Texas. Also I do not have any sisters to ask. I was toying with the idea of going through my Facebook girlfriends and set up some sort of challenge. Something along the lines like the bachelor competition. Would that be crass of me? Heck, I do t know. My husband to be has lived here over 15 years and has 3 groomsmen picked out. I can't see myself at my wedding with no bridesmaids. Ugh what to do.