Bridesmaid Care packages....... yay or nay?

Yeah, I would skip this. I know it sounds nice and thoughtful to you, but it's kind of backhanded. If your bridesmaids are local, maybe you could have a girl's night in and do all of those things together. That way it's more of a bonding experience for you guys than you telling your friends they need to whiten their teeth and clear up their skin.

I agree ^ I personally wouldn't want to receive a package full of "spa treatments" and beauty suggestions unless it were on my own accord. I think you could put the money you're considering spending on these towards their actual bridesmaids gifts.

Agree with the above. It's a nice gesture, but a girls day to do those things would be nice - or just skip it.

I agree with everyone else. It could be received well, but it could also be received as "you're a hot mess, fix yourself before my wedding." Which obviously you don't want. I would definitely just do a girls' spa day and allow them to pick and choose what they want to do!

OK so I am torn on this. I recieved one of these for a wedding I was in a year or so ago and I actually really liked it because I felt like it was all stuff I would want to use to prepare for the wedding. However, I guess I never thought about how some people could take the gesture differently. I am planning on sending my bridesmaids and MOH a bottle of wine and a month out.

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Wine might be a better idea! Probably about the same price too.

I am glad I asked this because the responses are opposite of what I thought they would be!

I think this is literally ADORABLE to do. If I was a bridesmaid, I'd think this was so thoughtful. Especially since I do all of this prior to a wedding anyway. I think it's a "know your girls" type of gift. All mine are pretty high maintenance, several choice to go on diets, grow out/work on their hair health, etc. when I asked them to be bridesmaids.

Maybe I will do a wine night a few days before the big day and have a "Beauty Bar" set up with all of the options and they can pick and choose what they want to do or take stuff home. Or they can just drink wine! lol

I’m sorry but I would love this!! I think if you include a little card about pampering yourself and left out the teeth whitening strips (which are the only things IMO that are a little iffy) as a bridesmaid I would love the sentiment!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. My girls wouldn’t say anything but they’d probably find it a little odd (particularly the vitamins and teeth whitening). The idea is super cute and I kinda want to copy it, I would just think carefully about what you put in it

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Yeah, that's why I said it just depends on the girls 100%. Like it wouldn't even phase me to see vitamins or teeth whitening, I'd think it was super thoughtful. I've only been in two weddings but before each of them (starting about a month out), I'd whiten my teeth, get a facial, do extra skincare at home & hair care, tan, and do my nails. I'd also do my very best to stay healthy & eat well. But I'm kind of a huge diva in that aspect, so someone like my fiance's stepsister that is more of a hippy and has two toddlers so is super busy, won't think to do any of those things (which is also fine).

View Quoted Comment I do all that too! But my skin is super sentence so I avoid face masks and I’m hyper critical of how white my teeth are, so I would totally
over think being sent white strips in a care package 😂

I think as as long as the care package is clearly about relaxing/home spa day and can’t be interrupted as “get prettier” you’re good 🙂 something like a scented candle, bath bomb, sweet/salty snack...

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Yeah, that totally makes sense! I'd probably alter it per girl, knowing how sensitive they are or high maintenance or their skin specifications!

I think the thought is really sweet but I wouldn't do them unless you know your friends are going to 100% love it and use every part of it. Like for me, I wouldn't use the teeth whitening strips and probably not the face mask just because my skin reacts weird to all but one certain type/brand. I do think it's a really nice idea but it's just unnecessary and I think you should save your money

I did something similar for my bridesmaids. We all got to Vegas on the same day, and they all got bags like this as well as matching flannel and Christmas ornaments with their names on them. Given how hungover they were the next day, they were pretty happy with them! This is the only picture I have, but the final bags had more in them.

This is really thoughtful in theory, but I see how some of the items could be taken the wrong way by some... I like the suggestion of a bottle of wine, maybe some candles too, nail polish?, tea, & maybe a cute note. Nothing that suggests they should be changing their appearance- maybe just items that promote relaxation

xoxo Kaylie