Bridesmaid Can't Make it to Bridal Shower?

It sounds like your bridesmaid will just have to miss it. That sucks, but sometimes scheduling doesn’t work out for everyone. I would just explain that it’s truly the only day that works for you, your mom, and your MOH. I’m sure she will understand.

You are overthinking this. You picked a date, your BM can't make it, it's fine. Just leave it as is.

I would try to move the shower to May if it's important to you that she's there. Or maybe see if your mom can work a different Saturday and have it the 16th or 30th?

I’d just tell her that you’ll miss her at the shower. Scheduling is so difficult and almost always can not accommodate everyone. My mom and MOH (sister) are scheduling the shower for what works for them and also my schedule (has to be a weekend my son was with his dad and I’d like to be on summer break from grad school). I hope my bridesmaids will make it but I know there’s a chance some might not be able to and I’ll totally understand. Don’t feel bad!

The way I am doing/viewing my bridal shower and events are that if the bridesmaids can come great! If not, I’ll miss them but will not be mad at them. Coordinating a date that suits everyone is difficult! Hopefully it works out she can come, or that you understand that she can’t come from prior commitments. Hope this helps a little! 💕

If moving the date to May isn’t an option, then it is what it is. None of my bridesmaids were able to come to the shower, but it was the only date I was able to do because of my schedule. So it was sad, I missed them, but it is what it is. My MOHs and a few family members were there and it was fine. Maybe you could hang out with her separately later?

I think it's fine if she's not there - but what about July? Would that work? Or May?

Don't reschedule, being an adult means you have to understand everyone has different schedules. I had to duck out of my friends shower because of work travel, people get it.

She'll just have to skip it.

Not a big deal. So she'll miss your shower. I wouldn't worry about it.

It's a bummer she won't make it but if that is that date that works for the majority, stick with it. Agree w/ @cows, being adult means you have understand different schedules.

I'm not worried about how I feel about it, I just want to make sure she's okay with not being able to be there- which is silly, I know, as adults we understand that we can't make everything and I have to focus on what's best for me and the rest of my bridal party/mother.

Rescheduling may be an option, but I'm not sure. I'm talking to my mother and MOH about it.

Enjoy the time with those who are present. I know it sucks but you gotta make the best of it

It isn't the end of days if she misses it. Just enjoy it with whoever can make it.

I also think that you should have nothing to do with planning your shower.

I have bridesmaids that live all over the country. I'm having two showers (one in PA where I'm from) and a couples shower here in FL where we live now and are getting married. My bridesmaids will not all be together until the actual wedding, and my MOH didn't ask all of them to try to travel for my shower since 3 of the 5 will be traveling for my wedding. I'm a little sad they won't all be there but honestly it is what it is. I would never ask them to schedule around me for anything other than the actual wedding.

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Oh absolutely, I don't want them to alter their timeline for me. She's going away with family, a perfectly acceptable reason to miss the shower. I just generally feel bad that she won't be able to be there, but, it is what it is.

Not a big deal. One of my three BMs couldn't attend my shower either and I understood. We missed her, but life happens.

It happens. one of my BM's has to work, she will miss it. It will still happen, but it sucks- I get it. It was either all of the BP can attend except for one, or only half can. It's hard to schedule an event around multiple adults' scheduled.

Not a big deal at all if the BM can’t make it

I would just tell her dont over think it. I went threw the same thing and Had a bad Anxiety attack cause i thought i had to do what they wanted until i got sick and realized its my day not hers and After a few days of trying to recover were just going to have two people

Why can't you have it on Sunday?