Bridesmaid Brunch

Hey Concetta, have you had your event yet? I would think if you are inviting everyone to brunch they would likely expect you'd be the one hosting the event and paying. But this would depend on how your friend group usually handles this sort of thing, if you often go to brunch together and everyone pays for themselves, and/or if you're not the one inviting everyone and setting the plans by yourself then it might be more expected to be shared.

If I were inviting them to brunch, then I'm paying. If you don't want to pay for each BM's meal, you can always make brunch at your home for around $20-30 dollars (depending on your menu). Add some drinks it may be a little more but nothing crazy (can you say mimosas!). Then make your proposal!

I had a bridal proposal brunch and they paid for their own food; however, I did cover the drinks (carafes of mimosas).

If you invite people out, you are the host and you pay.

If you "invite them to brunch" then you should pay; if you say "Hey, anyone want to have brunch out somewhere on some upcoming Saturday? " then everyone pays for themselves (especially if that's what you're friend group is used to).

I completely disagree. What you are saying is if you go to a friend, 'Hey, want to do brunch this week?' you would pay everytime?? That seems ridiculous. My friends and I always text around inviting people to do things (Get a mani/pedi, grab lunch, get coffee) but it doesn't mean the person who asks, pays. It means, 'Hey, I'm doing this thing, do you want to come with?'

If a person is choosing to do a formal brunch when their group doesn't normally do that and do something that involves a 'proposal box' (which I think is weird, but that's another topic) then yes I'd say it is more of a hosted event and that person should pay. If you get brunch with your girls every weekend (a staple of my group when we all used to live in NYC) then I don't think it is really a hosted event and one person doesn't have to pay.

Suggesting a mutual outing is not the same as inviting someone out. "Why don't we go out tomorrow?"--everyone pays. Inviting someone to an event you are hosting--you pay. It is up to the person initiating the event to make it clear if it's a suggestion or an invitation.