Bridesmaid backed out

No and no. You already know she is going but maybe just comp her dress so she doesn't have to spend more. I only say that because your wedding is less than a year off and she wasn't planning to be IN the wedding.

Im sorry ur BM backed out. It sucks. I agree with SunshineJenn.

This might not be a realistic option but could you offer to your bridesmaid (who backed out) that you will pay some of the cost to fly out to the DR? I am paying for one of my friend's flights, who will be singing at our wedding....

Yes I do think it's rude. You do not have even sides. Not only will the new girl probably feel like a replacement, but your other friend will probably feel replaced.

Age ranges aren't relevant to a bridal party - my bridesmaids range from 8-38

Is it possible you help pay her way there? Im not having an even number of attendants. I don't think its a rule. Im sorry... I had the same thing happen; although, now she is on the fence about coming. I throw my hands up in the air and say whatever and smile. If she comes Im stoked if not, I will be busy and surrounded by all my best friends to be too sad.

Hope it works out!

1. yes a tad rude; it may be obvious to someone that they are just a filler. Bridal parties don't have to be even.

2. I do think 15 is a little young; but often people have their daughters, close relatives, etc. so I think it would still be okay.

I don't think your bridal party has to be even. You should not ask some to be your bridesmaid because your friend can't make it.

Not at all. I had a BM back out and ended up having to find someone last minute. I didn't tell them they were a replacement though. Are you close with this lady? Or would it be obvious that you are making her a filler? I don't think your age range is too bad. I have a junior BM and she is 14. My MOH is 18. The BM that backed out is in her 30s. I hope it all works out for you!

I wouldn't mind helping a friend in a clinch, especially if i was gonna be there already. I agree that comping the dress would be a nice thing to do. If she's your friend, then she will probably be glad to help out as a replacement.

I don't think asking your other friend to be a bridesmaid is any more rude than inviting D-listed potential guests once you've received enough "No" RSVP's. You didn't have space for her before, and now you do. If she gets offended and declines, consider yourself lucky that you avoided the drama of a hypersensitive bridesmaid.

Personally, I wouldn't ask her to be a BM-- I'd much rather have an uneven BP with just our very closest friends (although it sounds like you already pushed your husband out of that), than have an even party with a Random Person. But that is just my personal opinion about what *I'd* like, not about how your guest would feel about being promoted to BM. As others have said, she'll probably be flattered to be asked.

I don't think it's rude. I personally would be flattered and would want to help make the wedding easier for the bride. We've only picked out our MOH(I have2) and FH picked out his BM, but I'm really thinking of asking the BM's gf to be in my BP. I've known her for years, just weren't too close til she began dating the BM. Anyways, she has been AWESOME!! Not only is she the MOH for her bff's wedding and doing all those duties, she has also stepped up, since my MOHs have been MIA since I asked them to be my MOHs. She is helping me plan my bachelorette party, and been there to keep me calm through everything! I know she would be a BM even if she was picked last minute. Just depends on how she is. Good luck!! Keep us updated!!

Just have an uneven bridal party. It's not an issue at all. You won't even notice in photos--I promise.

I just got a similar phone call! so im in a similar situation. do i ask someone else? i probably wont. my FH cannot decide on his 5th person, so at this point we are techinally not un even. but cmon dude we have 4 months! pick someone already!

FH asked my brother to be one of his groomsmen. my brother will be 13 when the wedding comes around. i DO think its young. but at the same time he is very important to us...and isnt that whats its about?

Cristina, I just saw your other post! I guess this stuff happens all the time!

Unfortunately I can't pay for her trip as we are paying for everything ourselves. I did offer to pay for the dress and shoes and she wouldn't have to do anything else as my sister is taking care of the shower and bachelorette party. I'm just upset because I should have known that I couldn't count on her. It's been like this forever, but I wanted her to be a part of my day!

FH had a hard time picking a 4th because he had so many guys he wanted to include. I made him pick one because I only had 4 and I wanted it to be even.

I am close to the other girl I would ask, we haven't been close as long, only about 2 years, but I know I could count on her. Her husband is marrying us, so she will definitely be there and I think she would be happy to step in. I would offer to offer to pay for the dress and shoes just like I did for the other girl. FH wants me to ask her because he honestly likes her better than the other one.

I don't know what I'm going to do! This is stress that I didn't need right now!

If you think she will be happy to do it, and you really want an even BP then go on and ask her. Especially if you know you can count on her

I say if the two of you are close go for it. I had two bridesmaids step down because they would be too far along in their pregnancies to travel. I asked one close fried to be in it but didn't have another girl I was close enough to want to ask so my BP is uneven and it is fine with me because it is more important to have close friends with me then even sides.