Bridesmaid Attire

Is she trying to find a way out of being in the wedding party? You offered her a dress or a pants options - does she want to go naked? What else could she wear?

View Quoted Comment I reached out to her the other day and asked how she was feeling about everything and being a bridesmaid in general. Zero indication of wanting to find a way out of being in my wedding party. This all just came out of no where I feel like.

View Quoted Comment She has to wear *something* and it’s not some crazy thing to wear a dressy coordinating outfit for a bridesmaid. This just seems like she’s trying to be difficult. Is she a teenager? This sounds like something my daughters would do as teenagers - insist they would not want/do X, but refuse to say what they DID want. This might be the time for her to learn that not making a choice IS a choice. It’s not healthy or productive to demand someone else figure out what you want, you know?

I would stop wasting my time trying to find a solution for her. I would tell her to find pictures of 5-10 dresses, pant suits, rompers.. whatever it is she is going to be comfortable in... and send them to you for approval.

View Quoted Comment I agree. She did do this in the first place and I approved a handful of pantsuits. I even said that if she wanted to order a different pantsuit off a different website and we could match the color as closely as possible, I would be willing to do that.

View Quoted Comment At this point, I think that is your best option. Put the responsibility on her. Give her a hard deadline for when you need the pictures by and just provide the final approval. This is a ridiculous thing for her to be stressing you out about. So sorry girl

I admire the fact that you're trying to be accommodating to your sister, but who's the bride, is it your sister or you? I agree with Chrysta, be as firm and strict with her as possible, and give her a deadline. I had one bridesmaid at first, who only ever had complaints about every little thing from the dress, all the way to the wine. I listened to her complaints with a grain of salt, and told her flat out, "Yeah, no we're doing it my way".

At this point I’d give her the option of what Chrysta said about her coming up with several outfits with a deadline. Tell her that if she doesn’t have anything by that deadline than she will be out of the wedding- put this back on her.

You have done everything you can to please her when it comes to YOUR WEDDING. Bridesmaids wear what the bride wants and you came to a compromise with her. I feel as if she could wear whatever she wants and picked out herself and still would be dissatisfied. Not because of she truly do not want to wear the outfit anymore but because she is for some reason just trying to be difficult. You have done enough, if I was you I'd tell her at this point to bad either wear it or don't be a bridesmaid.


I wanted all my bridesmaids to wear the same dress but I wanted them all to come together and find one dress that they all could feel comfortable with. I told them if they weren't able to decide I'd make the final decision. Well long story short this turned into multiple problems so I decided to let them all wear whatever style they want but the dress had to be a long gown and mint green. I had a bridesmaid not happy with my final decision so I told her if she didn't like how I'm doing things for my wedding she doesn't need to be in the wedding. I put my foot down because this whole dress thing wasn't actually about the dress as much as it was about being difficult because of this that and the other thing.

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Lmao I thought the same thing

Does she have like insecurities? how does she dress on a normal day? like Samantha said, she has to wear something.