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Just Said Yes May 2020

Bridesmaid and mua trouble. She hates my sister!

Gettin'hitched2020, on September 20, 2019 at 11:10 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

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This girl isn't my bridesmaid, but I am one (of 10) for her. She is my MUA. She went and had some services done where my sister works, she didn't know she worked there. Then one day she tells me about this "terrible" worker that she complained to corporate about and has been trying to get her fired. When I asked what she looked like, she gave a generic description that could have been anyone. So I recommended my sister for the next time she went. I told my sister that she had a bad experience. Once my sister heard the friend's name she knew exactly who it was and told me how terrible my friend had acted. And I know for a fact my sister knows how to do her job and the friend can be over dramatic. So now the friend is posting on social media about my sister in a passive aggressive manner and it's pissing me off! The friend texted me and said, "Your sister looks like the girl." and "Yeahhh it was your sister." My sister knows how to do her job and they obviously aren't going to get along. Having my sister in my wedding is more important that having the friend do my makeup. But I agreed to be her bridesmaid before she tried to get my sister fired. Not sure how I should handle this. Originally, I didn't concern me, but she is complaining about my sister on social media and I'm mad.

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Latest activity by Gettin'hitched2020, on September 21, 2019 at 7:45 PM

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Veronica · on September 20, 2019 at 11:45 AM
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I'm confused by your post. Let me try to understand you are in her wedding as a bridesmaid and you are also getting married and she is doing your makeup for your wedding, but she isn't in your wedding. Is that correct?
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Allaura · on September 20, 2019 at 12:26 PM
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I think if it makes you this mad you should talk to her and just say “I don’t think it’s fair for you to try to get my sister fired. I’ve heard both sides of the story and frankly believe you are being a little to dramatic.” Lol if she gets like super mad or something I’d just say “I am now in a difficult position and therefore think it may be best if I back out of your wedding” good luck though girl!
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Deirdre · on September 20, 2019 at 12:54 PM
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Is she doing make up for your entire BP or just you? If the plan was to have her do the BP make up, including your sister, I think that would be super awkward. I would probably hire a different MUA. Have you talked to her about the stuff that she posted? If not, I would say something to her about that not being appropriate. If she continues to try to get your sister fired, I would evaluate if you want this girl in your life at all and possibly back out of the wedding.
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Jeanie · on September 20, 2019 at 1:27 PM
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I would find another MUA for your wedding. You don’t need that drama. As far as being in her wedding, leave that up to her. But if someone were to continuously bash my sister, I would have to step down. No one talks crap about my sisters but me. After finding out that the person she doesn’t like is your sister, she should be mature enough to at least stop saying things to you.
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Just Said Yes May 2020
Gettin'hitched2020 · on September 20, 2019 at 2:09 PM
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Veronica: Correct, sorry about the confusion.
Allaura: Thanks, that is kind of what I am thinking.
Deirdre: She is doing mine and a few others. Some girls wanted to do their own, including my sister. That was before all this happened.
Jeanie: I agree. It's been a few weeks now and I am tired of her bashing my sister. She could hurt her reputation where she works. I am probably just going to do my own make up at this point or have someone in my family who can do make up well to do it.
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Veronica · on September 20, 2019 at 2:20 PM
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I would definitely try to find someone else to do your wedding party and your make up especially your sister's. It sounds like she wouldn't be able to be civil to your sister. I would be upset too if someone was trying to get my sister fired. I don't think I would want to be in that person's wedding. I would talk to your friend and explain that you aren't happy with the rhu fs she is saying. I would express your concern about having her do your makeup for the the wedding because of the way she has behaved. I would also your concerns about being in her wedding after the way she talked about your sister and what she is posting on social media about. You might end up losing her as a friend, but it sounds like she doesn't seem to care since she knows that is your sister and she is actually this way. I would reach out to other makeup artists to at least get pricing. I imagine your sister wouldn't want to be around your friend either so if you do decide to allow your friend to continue doing your makeup I would expect your sister to have someone else do it or not be there when the friend is there.
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Kelly · on September 20, 2019 at 2:21 PM
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I would find someone else to do the H&MU. I am not a fan of putting people on blast on social media. I am having people in my bridal party that don't get along, but they are also not blasting each other on social media.
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Just Said Yes May 2020
Gettin'hitched2020 · on September 21, 2019 at 7:45 PM
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I reached out to the friend and she did not want to talk about it at all. She kept saying that it was my sister that needed to apologize and that I needed to stay out of it. I suggested they both apologize and she said my sister was literally the worst. And that pissed me off. That's my baby sister. How dare her. I don't care how long of friends we have been. I think she and I have been friends for 3 years or so. But she won't talk to me and at this point I don't want to talk to her either.
So I'm going to find someone else to do our make up. And she can find someone else to be a bridesmaids to be crappy to.
Thank you to everyone who commented. I appreciate the advice and feedback. I hope this can be over soon.
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