Bridesmaid and Groom breakup

It is generally not a good idea to replace someone especially this close to your wedding. There is really very little interaction between the members of each party so it shouldn't be a problem to keep them in the party. Have you spoken to them to see how they feel about this? As long as they can put aside their differences for a day or two, this really shouldn't be a problem.

Is the bridesmaid that was dumped a friend of yours? Or was she only a bridesmaid because she was the groomsmen's girlfriend?
Because if she's a friend and that's the reason she was chosen, it seems kinda awkward to ask her to drop out BECAUSE she got dumped. I mean if anything, the groomsmen is the one who caused this issue by dumping her, why isn't replacing him an option if they're both your friends?
If she's not a friend and was only chosen because of who she's dating, then totally replace her. Do it tactfully, but if you don't have a friendship to lose, go for it.
If they're both friends of yours, I'd ask them whether or not they'd be comfortable still being in the wedding party together, don't say to the guy that you'll get rid of the girl or vice versa, but say, "are you still comfortable being in the wedding party even though you've broken up with each other?"
If the girl says no and asks to drop out, problem solved, and same if the guy says no and drops out.

I agree with Earias. I don’t think replacing either of them is appropriate, especially this close to your wedding. They won’t be spending much time together during the actual wedding and can separate themselves from one another as much as they would like during the reception. So there should not be an issue. Plus, I would home that they are mature and adult enough to respect your day and not cause any issues.

I wouldn't drop them. Obviously we dont know the dynamics of them or how the breakup went but you could have them walk separately from each other. Hopefully they will be mature adults and not start anything.

A lot of this depends on why you asked her to be a bridesmaid. Was it just because she was dating the groomsman or because she is actually your friend? If she is your friend, it is really unfair to her for you to kick her out of your party because she was dumped - unless she did something just absolutely terrible that could potentially ruin the whole wedding with her presence (i.e. getting arrested or cheating with another member of the party would be good reasons).

Also, what happens if you kick her out and/or replace her and they get back together before the wedding?

If she is okay being a bridesmaid with him as a groomsman, then you will lose her as a friend if you make any changes now. OF COURSE, you know your friends best and if they are loud drama that could affect your day, kick them both, not just one.

I would not dump them they are adults so they need to be adults. Talk to them not and explain that you know there may be some awkward feelings but you and groom still love them both and want them in wedding. If one of them is not able to behave in a way of manners and grace then I would let them go. But I would not replace them. That just says we only choose you for even. Numbers for pictures.

I was a bridesmaid in this situation. My ex-fiance and I separated before the wedding. As long as they can be civilized, just make sure they're not escorting each other at any time.

Just talk to them and find out what their comfort levels are.

Hey guys. I got married a few years ago and still check the forums from time to time. You should never replace or dump a member of your wedding party. It's really poor etiquette and tends to reflect worse on the bride and groom than the wedding party member being dumped.

They really won't be around each other that much. if you feel as tho they are mature enough to handle the situation, i'd say leave them in the wedding. they just have to be cordial towards each other for your wedding. they are your friends, they should be ok.

Two years ago my ex and I were in a wedding together, my best friend was the bride and his best friend was the groom. We are the ones who introduced them! It wasn't awkward for us. We were all adults and new how to handle ourselves in that situation.