Bridesmaid advice!

Are you saying you have 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen, making it 20 -- or 5 and 5? I've seen varying amounts. A wedding I was just in had about 8 - 9 on each side, so it's not unheard of. I'm doing 5 and 5, for my wedding. It's your wedding party and if those people are important to you, to stand by your side, do it!

I don’t know why that would look weird at all.

We have 5 and 5 because I was thinking 6 (including me for just girl or me and guy shots) is a nice even number (call it OCD or whatever you want) but thinking about pictures... there will always be uneven sides if I'm in the "middle"... it's honestly giving me anxiety... but I don't think its an unreasonable number, unless of course you only have 20 people coming to the wedding and 10 of those 20 will be standing...

I had 10 on my side and my husband had 9 on his!

I don't think it'll look weird

I don’t think it will look weird & having a lm uneven wedding party is better that inviting ppl to match up the number.

Join the club girl, bride brain gets you worrying and overthinking about the weirdest stuff sometimes I swear

But no, I don't think it would look weird at all. As much as I personally wouldn't have a large wedding party, I think it looks great in photos!

Trust in your photographer they will be able to make the pictures look fine. I have an uneven bridal party too and I was also nervous about how that would look at first - but then I realized that the most important part was having those important people by our side on that day and not the uneven number.

I don't think how pictures will look should be the deciding factor in size of party. There are certainly practical reasons not have a large party (more expensive for flowers, rehearsal dinner, gifts, transportation, coordination, etc.), and those reasons should definitely be considered while planning. That said, if you've already asked all 10 (or 20? not sure), then that ship has sailed.

I would ask the women closest to you. I wouldn't set a number for you or your fiance. We had a large wedding party, 9 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen. It cost us a lot more than a small wedding party would have in proposal gifts, bachelor/bachelorette party favors & contributions, day of gifts, flowers, and rehearsal dinner, but it was in our budget so it was fine.

our small army of bridesmaids & groomsmen!

I put a lot of thought into my bridal party, especially after reading sooooo many bridesmaid drama posts from other brides. I decided on 7 bridesmaids (6 friends, 1 SIL) and 2 junior bridesmaids (2 younger SILs) so 9 total my husband had 6 groomsmen - his brother, my brother and 4 friends and then my 2 little cousins as junior groomsmen so 8 total. Having a big wedding party was great!! The people we chose were true friends and have always been reliable. We had a great time with no issues at all. I'm so glad we asked everyone that we did. None of the guests were judgy about it and the photos came out great.

If it helps, most of the people from my hometown have 12-14 people on each side of their bridal party. All of their photos look great

The only time I would think 10 and 10 would look weird is if the wedding itself was smaller because then if you have 22 people (including you and FH) are standing up and then you have like 30 in the crowd that might look a little off BUT its still your wedding and up to you! I have 5 and 5 plus our ring bearer and our friend is our officiant!

Will it look bad that you have a great support system and people you want to honor and include on your special day? Heck no! Good for you

I have been in several bridal parties that started with 6-8 women. I have never seen more than five make it to the wedding. Every smaller party 3-4, all there start to finish.
Your very closest friends will make a big effort. But most people only have a few such friends. The larger groups always contain a few who are not so close, whether friends, or sisters or cousins or FSIL. It is 10 times as hard to find a good time when everyone can do anything, with 5 six people, as with 3. Too many work schedules, family things, financial and health issues. And just because you want them all because you are close to all of them, does not mean some with even like each other. Drama, fights, jealousy not over men or women, but people envious of what others have, or who gets more attention from others and bride. People with control issues. I think you are making a serious mistake going that big. Setting yourself up for a lot of stress and aggravation and likely some infighting.