Lakrisha
Just Said Yes October 2021

Brides: How do you feel not having groomsmen and bridesmaids?

Lakrisha, on June 10, 2021 at 2:46 AM Posted in Planning 0 11
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I don't want go thru the hassle or asking nobody

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Latest activity by Lw, on June 10, 2021 at 1:58 PM
  • Courtney
    Savvy September 2021
    Courtney ·
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    If it’s not what you want you don’t have to. It’s you and your significant others day. I recently was at my fiancée step sisters wedding and she only had a maid of honor and a best man. You do just want to think about where you will sit your flowers at the ceremony. But other than that you’ll be totally fine. Do what pleases you both.
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  • M
    Super June 2021
    Melanie ·
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    My FH and I both agreed that if we could redo the process, we'd only have a MOH and Best Man. Having a wedding party was such a headache for us coordination wise. So if you don't want any, don't have any!
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  • AJ
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Its not something you need if you don't want it! We are only having a maid of honor and best man, but its totally fine if you don't have bridesmaids and groomsmen!

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  • Michelle
    Dedicated August 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Yes ma'am, I feel great about it. When my FH and I moved the date up, we rearranged plans and decided on 2 special witnesses for the ceremony and pics. Initially, my lady friends were panicked about losing extra COVID pounds, and I'm happy not to coordinate matching dresses. They can dress as comfortable as they like. I also don't have to configure beauty plans or transportation. I tell you, less stress is worth it. I did make peace there will not be showers or bachelorettes-- no time anyway.

    If you still want to make time with the ladies, you can get your hair and makeup done on the day of, depending on your comfort level. Get the wedding you want.

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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Rockstar July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Having the wedding you want. It’s your day.
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  • Courtney
    Expert September 2022
    Courtney ·
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    I'm not worried about it. For me I don't have anyone I'm close enough to that would be offended that I didn't ask them.

    If one of my friends was still alive she'd be my MOH, but I honestly can't imagine anyone else standing in that spot other than her, so I elected to skip it, and FH decided to skip it too since the only person he'd want is his cousin and he'll understand us not having a party at all.

    Overall, don't worry too much about what other people think. If anyone gets upset about you not having a wedding party, you don't owe them an explanation. However if you want to give them one just say you've how much it costs to be one and how much time/energy for the people that do it and you don't want to bother anyone. You want just FH and yourself to be the focus that day.

    People can still host events in your honor without being a member of a wedding party.

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  • Nisha
    Dedicated May 2022
    Nisha Online ·
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    I had 8 couples in my first wedding. I told my fiancé I didn't want a bridal party this time around... but obviously I was lying to myself. Turns out, I do want my best friend by my side, just a MOH. He shot it down because he doesn't wanna have to ask a friend and make them buy an outfit. I told him ok, but I'm not ok. I've been thinking about it since Saturday, and it wouldn't be a problem for us to foot the bill for the best man and the maid of honor clothing.

    It's obviously something that you would have to discuss with your fiancé, but don't feel like you have to to keep with the tradition. I'm gonna bring it up to mine one more time and proffer the idea that we can pay.

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  • Megan
    Expert November 2022
    Megan ·
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    I am literally only having my best friend and he having his two brothers only because he wanted his brothers next to him. I was thinking the same thing I didn’t want the hassle either.
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  • Maddie
    Dedicated February 2022
    Maddie ·
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    I have very few friends (quite a few are dudes and/or live out of state) and my FH has like a million. If we had a wedding party it would be like a 15 groomsmen to like 3 bridesmaid ratio so we're skipping it. I ALSO think it's just such a HEADACHE and SO much drama. We're only having a Best Man (his brother) and a Man of Honor (my bff) and I could not be happier. This way we don't have to worry about anyone getting offended that they aren't included and they can all just chill at our wedding.

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  • JM Sunshine
    JM Sunshine ·
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    After reading a long stream of posts prior to yours about issues with bridesmaids, I don't blame you for not wanting to deal with all that!
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  • L
    Dedicated September 2021
    Lw ·
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    We’re skipping the wedding party and I’m happy about it. SO took some convincing. After we explained to our friends, they were all cool with it and excited not to have to spend the money/extra time. It’s a lot less drama and we still have our friends to lean on for support so I feel that it’s a win win.
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