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Dedicated February 2021

Brides, how are your parents reacting to the current situation?

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Future Mrs. T, on July 21, 2020 at 4:37 PM

Hi All! So a little background, my FH father passed away in April to COVID. It’s been hard especially because be was going to marry us. He was so looking forward to it and what happened was such a shock to us all. My FH’s mother and sister have expressed that they will be at our courthouse wedding no matter what come October. We live in NY and they live about 1hr30min away so they will be driving.

Now my parents are divorced and have been for some time and live maybe 15 min from me and FH, as does my sister. What hurt me is that both my parents and sister have expressed their hesitation with attending our courthouse wedding. It would be with 11 people max. The only others being my MOH and his BM, and my brother in law. I just feel hurt because his family has expressed their support while mine has not. This family has lost their patriarch and one would think they would be the ones more hesitant than mine.
I just don’t want to be made to feel guilty for wanting to keep our original wedding date (we did postpone our reception)
I appreciate honesty, but please be kind in your comments. 2020 brides are going through a lot of stress

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Just Said Yes September 2020
Kyna · on July 22, 2020 at 12:47 PM
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It's definitely not easy. I'm doing a "reverse" wedding celebration with a small reception brunch in the morning and then smaller ceremony that evening because I wanted to do the ceremony at a lavender farm during sunset. My sister and her wife decided they weren't going to come to brunch or do any pictures without masks. My mom just said she's not comfortable doing hair/makeup with me in the bridal suite and her and my dad may not come to brunch either. Everyone so far is saying they will still be at the ceremony, but my main wish had been at least one family photo without masks.

I've had to let go of expectations for how others decide they can participate safely. I'm still excited to get married that day and I've done what I can (all events will be outside with plenty of room for social distancing to everyone's comfort level, I'm providing masks, sanitizer, etc) to keep people safe. At the end of the day I can't say what is safe for anyone else except myself. While the day is not going to be what I had hoped, I can still be excited to start my life as a Mrs.

What an year to get married! I feel like COVID brides are going in the history books someday and our kids/grandkids will get lots of fun "this is how I had to plan" stories when they get married!

You are not alone! I had to take sometime last night to be sad about one more set of adjusted expectations. Today, I'm choosing to still enjoy the journey and be excited for the goal of the day which is ultimately just to get married to my awesome life partner!
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VIP August 2020
· on July 22, 2020 at 1:31 PM
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Yeah it's hard to know that we'll probably feel kind of bittersweet about looking back at this time. I hope you end up with great pictures from your postponed reception!
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Master December 2016
Elizabeth · on July 22, 2020 at 2:47 PM
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The poster is not having an outdoor event. It's a courthouse wedding. Most courthouses are cramped so it's not close to being outdoors. Also nothing is zero risk besides staying home.
I do agree with the suggestion of meeting them afterwards in a park or something, but you have to allow masks.
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Dedicated February 2021
Future Mrs. T · on July 22, 2020 at 2:49 PM
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I actually was considering do an outdoor wedding to make things easier. The courthouse currently is not allowing indoor ceremonies, only outside the building or at a park. We’d have to reschedule in case of rain as we do not have it in our budget to order a tent.

I think the responders were trying to offer different options to make the situation easier for me.
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Savvy December 2020
Valerie · on July 22, 2020 at 5:59 PM
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Thank you! We are still planning for our date and hoping for the best.
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