Bride's Father Doesn't Approve

Many women walk themselves down the aisle these days. They do not see themselves as chattel to be given away to anyone.Do you think she would be comfortable with that? Alternatively, the two of you could make your entrance and walk the aisle together.

Ah crap. I'm so sorry. I think she needs a little time. If I were you, I'd just give her some space on it and check in again in a few weeks. Don't push it too hard because she is reacting from an emotional place and can't really handle her feelings of abandonment and rejection from her parents. And who could blame her? I bet she will still want to have the celebration ceremony once she has a little time to process. Is there a friend or family member who could fill that role of walking her down the aisle? Could you walk each other down, so neither is alone?

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Don't try to pressure her to do something she's uncomfortable with. You can walk down the aisle with whomever you like without her doing the same. She can wait at the front, walk alone, walk with a brother, or you could walk together. There are lots of options. Many brides have difficult relationships with their fathers.

I thought about us walking together but I think it would really hurt my dad because I'm his only daughter and he always talks about how he has dreamed of the day he would be able to walk me down the aisle. My dad wasn't at the courthouse because I was stationed too far away and he was hurt that we didn't wait for him. She has decided that if her parents won't be there she won't be there either.

My best friend had an absent father and brother, neither of which were invited to her wedding. She walked herself down the aisle with her head held high like the beautiful, strong, independent woman she is and it was beautiful. Coincidentally, her mom is now in a same sex marriage, and although her mom's were older when they had their ceremony, they walked down the aisle together and that was beautiful too.

I totally understand where she is coming from, but there are plenty of beautiful weddings that don't include the bride being walked down the aisle by their father. The most important sentiment of the day is the 2 of you being joined as one, not someone giving away their child.

So why not have you dad walk you down the aisle and she walk in by herself? Or does she have a very close relative that would love to walk her down the aisle? Does not have to be a father figure or anything.

Is your dad very accepting of her? If so maybe he could pull a double and walk her down too if she comes around and decides she wants the ceremony to?